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I asked WH if he ever took MOW on a date and he said no. I believe him because their texts were always flirty and short, but never any substance to them. No scheduling a date or mention of a date. For the life of me why would you sleep with someone who has not taken you on a date? talk about a whore. My WH knows how to pick them I guess.

Did any of your WS's AP's have sex before a date? Talk about giving it up too soon

My WS only had sex appointments no dates. That's all they both wanted out of it. Just sad.

No dates here. Never ate out together, anywhere. Not once. Too paranoid they'd be spotted by other coworkers. I guess all their dating was done during work.

The first time wh screwed ow they met at a bar had a few drinks then had sex at her place. After that he never spent more than a few hours with her. He would go there, drink, screw, then come home. I almost feel bad for her that her self respect would be so low that she would allow someone to use her like that.

Main OW and my H went to lunch together once well after they had started sleeping together. He even called and asked if it was ok since I was working and he was off (how nice, right). His last OW came to spend a few days with him while he worked out of town. He actually spent 3 of the 5 back at home and she sat in a fleabag hotel 16 hours from her home. He said he took her to Pizza Hut and to a movie. The others, he never took anywhere. He couldn't really risk being seen if he wanted to keep his secret.

I think of her as nothing more than an unpaid hooker.

no date and it even had to spring for the room he did her in. Quite a charmer, that one

My H never had dates either. In fact, he had one OW that he had seen a total of 4 or 5 times over an 18 month period. He only saw her when he wanted sex, and she was always home and let him in. She never charged him for her services either.... in my book, that just makes her a DUMB whore.

Mine used to go walk the flea market together. WTF?

Oh, that's so super klassy.

(not that there is anything wrong with flea markets. But that was the ONLY place they ever went together in public.)

My ws couldn't take ow on a date for fear of being seen plus his free time is very limited. Hr doesn't go to bars, out with the guys, or out of town. Their dates consisted of her meeting him for sex in a less than 30 min encountetr. He's not late from work and is extremely cautious. He did sneak a few hotel rendezvous in by using a vacation day at work so I wouldn't be able to see a change in his paycheck.

These replies are just too much. I guess these OW stoop to a whole new level of low. They really do enjoy the crumbs. Oh well to each his own.

Yep, never a date. In fact, the few times I was out of town he didn't tell her, I suspect so she wouldn't have any expectations. Never any contact on any holiday. Not even a card on her birthday. Never said he loved her, in fact told her he loved me and would never leave me. Never spent the night, even the one time they were at the same conference out of town. He basically didn't like her.

She did accuse him of treating her like a whore, but he felt like one too. Often could not even perform, and would just leave, but would show up every month or two due to her threats.

On DDay she told me she was lonely and thought HE has issues! I actually have some pity for her; he did have issues but clearly she had serious ones too to be settling for such treatment. At least my H had a full, happy home life when he wasn't indulging his hidden dark side. She had less than nothing.

Did any of your WS's AP's have sex before a date?

Yes. There must be an unlimited supply of selfish losers out there.

He had never met the AP. They talked on the phone after connecting on a dating site, he drove to her father's house and they did it on the hide-a-bed in the living room. Apparently their initial meeting was supposed to be a dinner but she cancelled and invited him over instead. Later that day (after the sex), she called him and invited him for dinner the next night. They met at a motel first, then ate. That was when they learned each other's real names and ages (25 and 70). It's just gross. (I thought he was at the cottage doing "chores".)

Their "dates" were meals, wandering around malls while she hinted for him to buy stuff and motels (Red Roof Inns and by the hour places).

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I would guess most of their "dates" were all the way out to the parking lot after work to screw on the floor of a moving truck.

WH and OW went on a few dates, one of their date spots was one of my favorite restaurants, they also went to the movies, and did a lot of talking in her car

Yes. My husband took his long term OW out on dates. She thought she was his girlfriend. He took the others out to dinner or lunch or drinks. None of them knew he was married.

No. They settled for a few minutes in the back seat of their vehicle. He wouldn't allow them in ours. We always had car seats in ours so to much hassle I guess.

OW are the most pathetic human creatures on earth.

Does it count when the xOw was included when we went to eat, play tennis or go to the movies?

AFAIK the closest to a date between xOw1 and MrH was when she was the third wheel when we went places while her H was at work.

my hubby had a few dates flirty texts and love letters but no sex,,,

he paid the prostitutes for the sex separately.... all while we were dealing with bailiffs and struggling to put food on the table

If fucking my XH in my bed while I was at work counts as a date, then yes.

If not, then no, she was just a disgusting dirty slut who had no problem fucking in my bed.