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crossroads2010 ( member #30213) posted at 1:08 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
A simple "sorry I am married.. not interested" should ward off any blatant advances and if it doesn't getting a little more direct...even rude is called for...when you are there with him he should go out of his way to make sure she sees and understands that ya'll are VERY MARRIED.
There are apparantly a LOT of 50 something sluts out there and whether a man is married or not doesn't matter.
I just spent 10 + years "keeping up" with teenagers...now in their 20's...I do not want to spend the next 20 having to "keep up" with a 60 year old man.
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 1:31 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Not slutdar per se, but I worked closely with a woman who I'm pretty sure had Histrionic Personality Disorder, and the only way I could deal with her shit was to figure out what reaction she wanted from me, and then do the opposite. They stop getting what they want from you, eventually they'll leave you alone and move to easier marks.
SisterMilkshake (original poster member #30024) posted at 2:08 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
But, we all know how these whores operate. "You're available? No, thanks, I like the shiny wedding band on that guy's hand, think I'll put my ass on it."
Exactly! Sits on my husbands lap when the divorced guy is sitting right next to him who would have been thrilled to have drunk Mary on his lap. 
ppga ~ 
thanks!
apparantly a LOT of 50 something sluts out there
Yep, you would think they would grow up at some point, but nnnnnnoooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 2:34 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Until your WH gets that laying down boundaries is HIS job, you will continue to have these OW problems plaguing your marriage.
Is avoiding her a good tactic? Sure, but IMO it only adds to the drama, giving her an opening something like "Gee, why aren't you being friendly to me like you have been in the past?" He has already set the bar for her that flirting with him is just fine and dandy.
I've read your posts for a long time and it seems you spend a lot of time worrying about the OWmen he encounters when the ownership of his actions is on his shoulders.
He truly needs to man up and make it clear he's not available versus leaving that conversation with these women to you and your DD.
AJ's MOM
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atsenaotie ( member #27650) posted at 3:31 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
What AJ'sM said.
At some point they have to learn the lessons, complete the practice and solo.
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