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Mama_of_3_Kids (original poster member #26651) posted at 12:34 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
If you scripted the conversation, is there anything he could say or do in the next conversation that would make you feel ok/better? And then, if there is, how likely are you to get it?
No, there really isn't anything that could be said that would make me feel better. He's a jerk and has been my entire life...nothing is going to help that fact. As to why I can't say to him what I feel/think, it won't matter so why waste my breath. He doesn't care about anyone but himself.
Me: BW/33 The kidlets: DS16, DS12, and DD10 The hounds: Three Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 1:21 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Mama_of_3_Kids (original poster member #26651) posted at 3:49 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
I am to a point where I simply cannot handle him any longer. Do3K is going to talk to my dad because I just can't right now. I don't need the stress of him being him, so Do3K is going to talk to him and find out the details for me.
Me: BW/33 The kidlets: DS16, DS12, and DD10 The hounds: Three Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 4:16 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
((((((Mama)))))))
He asked you to call when you have a moment.
You don't. You have 2 jobs, 3 kids, pets, and a husband.
You do not have a moment.
JustDone ( member #9742) posted at 4:41 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Madhatter
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 5:05 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 7:29 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Mama, don't get sucked into the maelstrom of his life.
Don't...just don't.
{{{hugs}}}
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
MoreThanMe ( member #25451) posted at 7:53 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
OMGah. I can't believe that's what he texted back.
You know how I read it first, because unlike him I understand human relationships, I thought he was saying
-there is more to it, call me when you can a chance to mean "call me because I know its not just that you're busy it's that you, understandably, are incredibly anger with me for all those years."
Well, the goods news is-he's still doesn't get it (and the shopping days are almost over)-and so at least you don't have to deal with "I know, I failed you-it was horrible, shitty, selfish, etc..you know it he owned it-because then it would be even harder to say no.
I always tell my husband-that my mom so had the best part of the deal-make amends when she is still able-and then we care for her during the many, many, many more years of when she isn't.
Brevity, typos & misspellings provided by my ipad and fatigue.
It's been 4 years, SA husband sober. We're doing okay. Today.
fWH had ONS with High School Principal he met on Ashley.com. 08/25/2009
Mama_of_3_Kids (original poster member #26651) posted at 3:39 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
He called an additional three times today...me thinks he's getting awful bored in the nursing facility. I found out that my younger sibs and their mom (my step-mom/my dad's current wife...only b/c she hasn't been able to divorce him yet 
). My sperm donor is PA and an addict...it's the perfect storm. He hit my step-mom, hence the reason she wants a divorce. There *was* a restraining order on him, but I don't know where she stands with him on all of that. It's just not a good situation at all 
Me: BW/33 The kidlets: DS16, DS12, and DD10 The hounds: Three Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's
abbycadabby ( member #27428) posted at 5:42 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
(((Mo3K)))
It seems we have lived parallel lives! See my post about almost exactly the same thing. I know, from experience, that this is so, SO hard. I'm sorry either of us, or anyone else, had to go through this mess.
Feel free to PM me if you'd like.
Mama_of_3_Kids (original poster member #26651) posted at 2:07 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
(((abby))) You're always welcome to PM me as well.
Me: BW/33 The kidlets: DS16, DS12, and DD10 The hounds: Three Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's
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