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Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 2:50 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Just got text from POS saying what he wants from our assets (it was stuff I was prepared to give in negotiations anyway) and he is conceding me the rest, including the marital home outright. After last night's verbal sparring he is being very agreeable, but says he just wants to move forward in a positive manner. Part of his sudden conversion of agreeableness might be that he just found out one of his old friends just commit suicide. He says I know him, but won't tell me who it is and says he doesn't want to talk about it anymore. I am always sorry when someone feels the need to take their own life, but I may actually be seeing a light at the end of my own dark tunnel as a partial result. He has asked me to prepare the dissolution paperwork and send to him for his signature, which I will do quickly to strike while the iron is hot!
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 2:57 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
This sounds good... if it holds. Fingers crossed. You have or will be passing the paperwork by an atty...right? I know after 30 years, we were looking at QDRO's and quit claim deeds, insurance issues... Be sure to CYA!
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 3:12 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Definitely by the L first...and don't give him squat without his signature on those papers...and then something to sign saying he as picked up everything so he can't come back later!
Go for it girl! 
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 4:40 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Take advantage of the situation now! and don't poke the bear. Good luck!
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 6:23 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:00 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Fly like the wind, Phoenix! These agreeable moments tend to fade quickly.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
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