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Vulcanized (original poster member #33523) posted at 5:09 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013
The last 3 weeks or so, have been dreaming of XH pretty consistently. XH has made more appearances in my dreams than he has since ... ever.
Had a fairly prolific series of related recurring dreams in months leading up to DD.
Getting sorted wigged out that XH's presence in dreams is indicative that he may show up in RL. 
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 5:44 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013
Given the history, consider it an early warning system...? Actually really cool radar, now you can work out how you want to respond ahead of time in case he does show up IRL.
Or:
There is an old saying that when you can't sleep it is because you are awake in someone else's dream... so while it is disturbing to have to have those dreams, take comfort that maybe he's suffering from insomnia... 
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 6:26 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013
I can't tell you how many dreams I have had about WH in the 3 years since d-day, that he's cheating on OW with me.....
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
Douchebagfree ( member #39267) posted at 9:08 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013
I've had one of those myself. In the dream, he asked that we get back together :)
I remember that dream to this day. There were so many strange things in that dream, like the number 7 showing up everywhere.
I also remember telling him that he was crazy if he thought we'd get back together after what he did :)
Hope your dream was along the same lines :)
Sometimes you have to stand alone, just to make sure you still can.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 9:17 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013
I had a really vivid dream not long ago of POS and I reconciling after our divorce. I have no intention of looking for that in reality because he will never change and I cannot/will not accept less. I think that because I have an aunt and uncle that were married for years, got divorced for many years, then got remarried plays a part in my brain wanderings... and that's all dreams are, mental wandering...
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
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