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tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 12:58 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
This has been going on all week since he got home from the Disney vacation. It was getting better...only one little one yesterday...but right now we are going on 30 minutes of screaming and kicking.
The kid has some endurance...his mom must run marathons or something. 
It's just exhausting.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 1:04 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:08 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Sending you strength, tesla. And wine. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 1:09 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Oh boy...I think the end might be in sight...here he comes...let's see if he's settled.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 1:16 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Poor teslet. You're such a great Mom. It must be hard for him to handle it all sometimes.
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:27 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
(((Tesla)))
((((Teslet))))
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 1:30 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
It just seems like he gets over stimulated so quickly. And the first couple of days back anytime he heard the word 'no,' all hell broke loose.
I suppose I'll just add this week to my list: "joys of parenting with a lower muppet."
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 1:31 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
The kid has some endurance...his mom must run marathons or something.
You may be onto something - I found this on Wikipedia: "the force of the tantrum is a kind of measure of the strength of character the child can possess eventually, if [s]he's helped to harness that energy"
Don't know if that's scientifically proven or what, but something to hold onto when the screaming's at its worst...
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 2:26 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Hmmm...that's food for thought, lyonesse.
The talk after the tantrum:
Me: so did you get what you wanted by throwing that tantrum?
Teslet: no
Me: do you ever think throwing a tantrum will get you what you want with mom?
Teslet: *emphatically shakes head no*
Me: good, young grasshopper. Now you need a snack and I need a beer.
Teslet: mom, I'm not a grasshopper, I'm a boy!
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:46 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
For a minute I thought you were referring to the lower muppet... 
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
million pieces ( member #27539) posted at 3:09 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
There are tantrums when kids are trying to manipulate a situation (not judging, that is what most kids do at some point) and there are tantrums when they are just out of control. My ds was like that, very sensitive and when he was off/over stimulated/tired watch out. He just couldn't control himself. It was sooo sad to watch. I wish I had more patience back then.
My dd's tantrums were rarely out of control. Much easier to take.
Hugs to you both!
Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 3:19 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
"the force of the tantrum is a kind of measure of the strength of character the child can possess eventually, if [s]he's helped to harness that energy"
Wow this explains my middle D to a tee. Very driven personality.
Her temper tantrums were legendary in our neighborhood 
Yeah.. that's right ... the neighbors heard her... even a couple of houses away. Today she is in college, working 2 jobs, and on the dean's list. I think she learned to harness that energy.
It wasn't easy going thru it then.
Hugs Tesla, I feel for you.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 4:21 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Glad it's over. You certainly earned that beer!
One of my new favorite children's books is Coraline by Neil Gaiman. I don't know if you've read it, but if you haven't, I think that it teaches great lessons about not taking what we have for granted and about how life isn't always about getting what we think we want. Here's one of my favorite quotes:
"'You really don't understand, do you?' she said. 'I don't want whatever I want. Nobody does. Not really. What kind of fun would it be if I just got everything I ever wanted? Just like that, and it didn't mean anything. What then?'"
Teslet will figure this out in time. He's lucky to have you so that you can guide him to that realization since your ex-shat is incapable of doing so.
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 6:51 AM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Children have purer emotions then we do. I am sure some of it is just coming back to earth after a week of disney, with a less stable enviroment. I think honestly, he may be letting the parent he trusts most deal with his emotional confusion.
My dd is now 14. She is very much more comfortable with me. I am her rock and her stability. Her father is her cartoon buddy, and lets her get away with everything. When push comes to shove, she turns to me every single time. She already told him, that if we do divicorce she will be with me period. He says he knows if we, D he will lose her.
We are separated, so he is afraid.
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