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he says: “Want_To_Forgive, I think you need someone who is tender with you, but also firm and strong.”

Sorry to be the voice of dissent on this, but this sounds like a player's pick up line.

Not that the sentiment of it isn't appealing. But for him to feel the need to declare it? I don't know, just odd to me thats all.

[This message edited by nofool4u at 4:07 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]

Sad and inconnu, you picked up on the part that has me second guessing myself. I am woman hear me roar.

Like I said, it could just be the choice of the word firm that bugs me. I do know I need, and have, a man who can hold his own against me and isn't afraid to voice his opinion when it doesn't agree with mine. But he's equally as good at listening, and respecting, my thoughts and opinions even if he doesn't agree with me.

The word firm reminds me of Ricky and Lucy, of I Love Lucy fame. He had to be firm with her because otherwise she didn't live up to his expectations of how a wife should behave. Yeah, I know it was a tv show, and yeah, I know it was from a gazillion years ago and times and expectations have changed since then. But still, that's the picture I get in my head when I hear the word - the husband who has to control the wife, for her own good.

I'm with Sad and inconnu... it would make me feel like someone feels like they have to keep me in line or something. No thanks.

Unless we're talking that wimmenz locker room talk, that is. Then yeah, leave it in.

[This message edited by wildbananas at 6:41 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]

Heck, I didn't even get to the "firm" part before I felt squirmy. The "need" and "you need" gave me icky feelings. I don't like that "you need" line. Unless, of course, that's what you were talking about and said it to him first or asked what he thought you needed but I would't do that. Then again, I am not dating and that's probably a good thing. It's all a big to me.

oh I love it. That's right up my alley - and what I want... NEED

It reminded me of Rhett butler saying " you need to be kissed often, by a man that knows how."

I can appreciate the intended sentiment, but seriously, no way in Hell am I going to allow anyone to tell me what I need - man or woman, tender or tough, firm or flaccid , strong or weak.

ROAR!!!

WM: "you need to be kissed often, by a man who knows how."

Yes, please!

I am hopeless. LOL

I would also be irritated by anyone, especially a date/boyfriend telling me what I need. Regardless of how often I told waffle, pre-S, that he needed to get his head out of his ass. I also don't like firm... I agree it sounds paternal. Almost in a "don't worry your pretty little head" way.

I don't want to be a downer, but I'm not a big fan of "waiting for someone like you". That sounds pedestal-y.

Again, sorry to be a downer. It may have come across differently depending on the context.

WOW!!!! I gotta tell you ladies that this thread was a very interesting read for a guy. The more I think I know women.... the more I realize I really don't know sh*t.

Anyway thanks for the info cause the more I get of that... the less likely I'll hook up with another "weed pulling stalker" next time.

As a guy, I simply cannot fathom making this comment to a member of the opposite sex. How condescending.