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wildbananas (original poster member #10552) posted at 4:30 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
Long story short, last night, ex-asshat sent away baby banana and told her she too wasn't welcome at his house. And why? Because she was so stressed out there, she melted down and cried for me and to come home.
She's 10.
And he wonders why his children can't stand him. 
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 4:33 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
that's just heartbreaking.(((babybanana)))
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 4:37 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
I am sooo sooo glad she has you to come home to. While you can't take away her pain... you can show her your love, and she will know that she is worthy of love, kindness and respect because you will teach her that.
Can I nominate him for the Biggest Dick Award? He has some stiff competition....
Hoping ^^^^made you smile just a wee bit.
Don't forget ... The Banana's ROCK.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 4:43 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
What an ass.
I feel so bad for Baby Girlnana. Big hugs to her.
Thank goodness she has you, WB.
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:00 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
t/j:
Can I nominate him for the Biggest Dick Award? He has some stiff competition
Kajem, you're killin' Smalls; you're goddam killin' me! 
I'm sorry, wb; he is indeed a dick. You're girls are such dolls; his loss.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
wildbananas (original poster member #10552) posted at 6:39 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
Can I nominate him for the Biggest Dick Award? He has some stiff competition
And thanks... she's a pretty good kid. I like her (and her sisters) a little bit. 
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 7:07 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
(((baby banana)))
Poor little banana. 
How's she feeling today?
OnceInALifetime ( member #26023) posted at 7:22 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
10 years old?
I'm glad you see his behavior so clearly for what it is.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:54 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
(((((babynana))))) I'm sorry he's such an ass.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
aLadypilot ( member #1822) posted at 8:03 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
What a POS!
Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 8:08 PM on Saturday, July 6th, 2013
What an ass. I can never understand people that treat their own children so badly. Then they blame the kid for it. My heart hurts for her. Don't forget to document, document, document.
I just want to give her a hug. (((baby banana)))
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
wildbananas (original poster member #10552) posted at 12:48 AM on Sunday, July 7th, 2013
She's okay, jo... she's actually in a pretty good mood right now. I think she's relieved she doesn't have to go back there anymore. Sad but I'm glad she's okay for the moment.
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
BrokenPieces ( member #7685) posted at 1:08 AM on Sunday, July 7th, 2013
What a turd... I'm so sorry for your sweet nana girl.
BS-43
Red Headed Imps 14 & 11
DDay 1/05
Divorce final 6/21/06
My new life is GRAND.
Married my new beginning 6/09
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:24 AM on Sunday, July 7th, 2013
I'm glad she's doing ok. So glad she has the best banana in the bunch as a momma.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 9:19 AM on Sunday, July 7th, 2013
This is not ok - he's a fuck head...but I'm glad she's doing better....
And he totally deserves the biggest Dick award....
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 2:54 PM on Sunday, July 7th, 2013
He's told your girls that they are not welcome in his home? Then the best thing is for you to help them grow and thrive without him. They will be much better off without all that stress.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
missherlots ( member #30591) posted at 7:05 PM on Sunday, July 7th, 2013
you do not worry. he is setting his own bed for the future.
He will regret it later and it will be too late, besides they have you!!!!
Hug her and tell her how much you love her. she will remember it for the rest of her life. 
my two cents
[This message edited by missherlots at 1:05 PM, July 7th (Sunday)]
Pain and suffering is part of life, but I choose to feel love and compassion for all people excluding no one.
hurtinky ( member #26152) posted at 7:17 PM on Sunday, July 7th, 2013
Wow. What an idiot.
Can you get your custody agreement changed? He doesn't sound mature or stable enough to care for children.
I'd be concerned about him having any overnights with the kids.
Sounds like a selfish, stupid, childish, immature f*ck up to me.
Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 9:15 PM on Sunday, July 7th, 2013
Poor thing! Glad she's feeling better today and I'm really really really glad she's got you for a mama!
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
willowiris ( member #5372) posted at 3:38 AM on Monday, July 8th, 2013
Your poor baby girl. I want to kick him in the balls. So sorry, sweetie.
D-day 09/2004
Filed for divorce 9/2006
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