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It is amazing how she has twisted this around and made herself out to be the victim. Especially to her family. I understand family taking care of family but in 17 years she never went running to them due to a bad marriage. I can't believe how quickly they have turned on me. I had a different perception of my ties to them. They are helping nail the final nail in the coffin. Taking her to parties, concerts, etc. At least my kiddos are sticking by me. I am ready to get divorced from this person but keep quietly hoping my wife would show back up.

It sounds like your wife has her head firmly up her ass. Her family is going to stand by her, even if they think she is an idiot. Blood, it's thick.

She may never wake up. It is sad to see someone you thought you knew descend into behaviors/ personality you never knew were in them. Some people just lose their damn minds. I know mid-life crisis is a cliché but when it fits, it fits.

Parties and concerts are a nice distraction from facing up to the fact that she cheated with a guy who has a baby and made everybody 'friends' to maintain access. Who wants to look at that sick mess too hard?

That would mean she would be 'finding herself' an asshole. It is easier to lie to everybody, herself most of all.

[This message edited by redrock at 5:43 PM, July 22nd (Monday)]

Thanks Redrock I needed to hear it from someone today. I rented a house today. It was a big step towards what appears to be the inevitable.

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Families tend t stick with their own, especially in these type of matters.

In time the truth comes out.

As much as you want your wife back she is no longer your wife. It looks like her. It sounds like her.

But no longer acts like her.

Lawyer up. Protect yourself and the kids.

Get a good divorce attorney.

And after you are divorced I would take all of your information and nail both of those waywards as well as the school district.

Because not only are they horrible spouse, horrible parents but they are are horrible teachers abusing their authority.

Hit them where it hurts the most. Their reputations.

Not out of revenge but as a lesson they need to learn. Humility.

I had a buddy who this happened to. Him and his ex were both teachers as well as the OM.

He sued the school district and got both of them fired after the divorce. She did not get any spousal support after she lost her job.

But the kicker was she never told her family why they were divorcing. He invited her parents and siblings to the hearing. They were very surprised...

Good luck.

HM

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No great wisdom.

It ain't over till it is over.

Sometimes they have a cranial extraction. But that is not something you can control.

You CAN take care of you and the kids. You can do what you can to mitigate the shitstorm she brought into your lives.

You didn't let her cake eat. You are keeping the focus on you. That and having the best lawyer you can find is what you can do right now.

I do agree that you expose these assholes as soon as the ink is dry. But only you can make that choice.

She will be surprised to learn that her 'prize' will probably move on to another mom or teacher or available ego kibble provider once her act gets a little stale. He will move right on down the road to the next conquest without a beat.

PS--If you need distraction, try a book tape. They kept me sane in the post dday days. I wore my library card out. It was a great way to keep my mind off the A. I really enjoyed the murder mysteries at that time.

Hope you are okay today.