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lonelylost ( member #36784) posted at 4:23 PM on Tuesday, July 16th, 2013

ALWAYS trust your gut. This is a clear red flag to me too.

I am having the same problem with my "whatever he is". We always used to do the good morning/goodnight thing and include an "xo". If he didn't bother to send one of those, I took it as a red flag. Then, I started receiving texts that I believe were not even intended for me. The whole texting thing is a source for anxiety and I have decided to go on a text diet.

But always trust your gut.

Divorced Jan 2013

"Don't look back, the road is long."
- Needtobreathe

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torn2bits ( member #28376) posted at 11:51 PM on Tuesday, July 16th, 2013

Turned, good luck to you in whatever you both decide. I hope that it works out for you as you seem to really care about this person.

Despite some comments on this thread, please believe that we are still here for you and only have your best interests in mind.

Me: 45/WH (SA): 49
M: 26 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce halted

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 turned123 (original poster member #33663) posted at 12:34 AM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013

T2B THAT is why I'm still here!

me BS 48
her WW 45
married 15 years
divorced
3 wonderful but hurt kids

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Duffy1958 ( member #39755) posted at 1:22 AM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013

Turned, I rarely disagree with Cat, I have read her posts for years. This time I disagree to a degree.

I have to say I have been guilty of not calling my husband when our agreement was that I would. He would want me to call & say I arrived safely wherever I went. It is a respectful thing to do & sometimes I failed & he would be hurt & pissed. All I could do was say sorry but I must confess it happened more than should have. I wasn't cheating or even thinking of it, I was just stressed & spacey. He worried, rightly so.

Our situations are different but my point is my "forgetfulness". I'm being honest in that it happened more than should have but it was a VERY stressful time.

I am & always have been totally into my husband & I am really good about being more respectful in my communication with him.

Does this make it clear as mud? I'm sorry Turned, it's hurtful no matter what. Hang in there & please keep updated. Duffy1958

Me-SAHW soon 55
Him-asshat age 60
Married 3.5 years together 13.5
Step-children 8 altogether Grandchildren.
Cheaters are the same yesterday, today & forever. They may have different caveats but they lie the same & pull the same shit.

Where i

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