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classy6179 (original poster new member #39938) posted at 9:36 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
we don't have any problem he tell his family that am girlfriend and that we have an open relationship. he feels since he always traveling for months at time that we could go out as we please.
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 1:16 AM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Honey, you don't have to accept this. Please value yourself enough to stick to your boundaries and kick this guy to the curb.
Pretty damn convenient that the second his divorce is final, he wants an open relationship so that he doesn't have to commit to you. Stop wasting your time with him, sweetie.
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 4:01 AM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
classy, can you help me understand what your relationship with this guy has been? Did you mean that he has been legally married up until a month ago, but you have been dating for a year? In other words, have you been dating a man who was still legally married, who only recently finally got divorced?
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classy6179 (original poster new member #39938) posted at 3:02 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
I met him on dating site over year ago after my rough break up with my EX. We met in casual place and told me that we was separated from his wife. we have wonderful time together each and every time he comes. but he loves to disappear from time to time. At first he took off to the west coast told me he had go cause in florida it was very difficult to find job which i agree. i felt that he was running away. i had met someone and told him that this long distance relationship this is something i couldn;t do. So, He comes back two month later looking for me. so stupid me went saw him and lied to the guy i met. so comes back in my life again. Once again he leaves no phone calls no nothing so found second relationship and he comes back again stupid again come back. for year its been the same story finally he get divorce my daughter ask him if he ever going to married me and found it hard to answer my daughter all he said we are just friend. So he tell his cousins that am his girlfriend and that we are an open relationship.
chikastuff ( member #35288) posted at 5:12 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Don't walk, RUN!
Seriously, this guy sounds like my ex. Read my profile, are you sure you want to subject yourself to that?
"Open" relationships are for people with no morals or self respect.
Me- 32
Happily engaged and moving on
hurtbs ( member #10866) posted at 5:14 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Honey, what are you getting from this relationship?
Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 5:49 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Geez - he is just playing you when it works for him? You deserve better!!
So he tell his cousins that am his girlfriend and that we are an open relationship.
Yeah - he tells them that so he has a 'free pass' to be seen with whoever he wants.
Don't let him take advantage of you anymore - you deserve better!
Plus you do not want this to be an example to your daughter of how men should treat her.
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 7:18 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
So what values do you have in common with this man ?
Fidelity is a huge one not to agree on.
Time to break up and move forward so you can find the right man with values that compliments your own.
I don't share well so I would have been gone after the first conversation on open relationships and he continued forward without my approval.
Hugs don't accept less than you deserve,ever !
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 12:30 AM on Saturday, July 27th, 2013
Listen to what he is telling his family. He's already in an open relationship.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
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