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BeyondBreaking (original poster member #38020) posted at 3:59 AM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
Does anyone else do this, or is it just me?
It started back when I was engaged in college to my fiance. I don't communicate well when I am angry/frustrated- I tend to get vindictive, call names, yell, etc... In order to help prevent that, I would practice what I planned on saying and addressing the topic while I was in the car, etc...
It gets worse. I have gotten to the point now where I will "say" outloud whatever I am feeling in the car on the way to work as soon as I drop off my daughter. I sometimes don't even mean to. Some of the stuff is preparing what I plan on bringing up that evening. Some of it is venting out loud.
Anyone with me? Is this completely unhealthy?
I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 9:58 AM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
I don't know if it's healthy r not, but I do the same thing. Driving alone is the worst, I talk, sometime these moans come out.
At work I keep saying, "what am I doing?" and then I reply to myself, "stop saying that".
Thankfully, my co-workers are great people and my boss has actually been through this with his wife. So he doesn't think I am totally crazy.
It is embarrassing though.
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 11:17 AM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
Of course I talk to myself. Im the only one who understands me.
(I think it's normal. I *hope* it is...anyway... 
)
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 1:50 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
Oh, Oh. I've always talked to myself. This isn't normal?
Ooops.
And yes, I too am the only one who understands me.....I need this.
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 1:56 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
I talk out loud in the car constantly. I am a very entertaining guest.
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 1:57 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
actually, studies have shown its a sign of intelligence...
SadFlower ( member #37725) posted at 5:19 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
I talk to myself all the time. Sometimes it's just venting, sometimes it's rehearsing difficult conversations, such as the big D-Day conversation (rehearsing did help a lot!). Saying things out loud helps me process things.
Me: BW, age 71
Him: WH, age 70
Married 24 years
In R.
D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA
daisychains ( member #37997) posted at 7:18 PM on Tuesday, August 20th, 2013
I've always talked to myself - now the chats tend to be a lot longer - though it's nice to know it's a sign of intelligence.
Scubachick ( member #39906) posted at 8:21 PM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
I don't really talk outloud to myself but I shake my head, roll my eyes, smile based on the conversation I'm having with myself in my head. I don't realize I'm doing it...my son points it out. It's really bad in the car. I bet I look insane at redlights.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 8:23 PM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
It's really embarrassing when I'm in a full roll and then realize I am at a stop light and other people are around. This is where pretending to be on the phone comes in handy.
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Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
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