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Initially he was very resentful. He would 'allow' access to all but a work laptop (which I guess he had to 'clean up' before I got to it!) He too had problems with being made to feel like a child Oh well, whatever!

Now, whilst I think he is a long way off happy about it he offers no resistance and seems surprised when I mention something that I could only know if I looked at his emails.

Honestly though, I realise that it is a false reassurance that I get if I ever do 'snoop'. He could easily have secret accounts or phones. I try not to occupy my time with checking up too often.

At first wh was ok with it open...then he began to become resentful. I asked not to long ago and he refused. We ended up in a tug of war over it. I let go. Fuck it and him.

He lets me look at his stuff.

As far as the phone, both our names are on the account so I feel its my right. He hasn't ever really said much about the phones.

But, he has changed email passwords on me--I just confront him then and we rehash everything.

He initially was against it - and he had a reason to be, as the A was still going on. Now, I can look through it whenever I feel the need to, which doesn't happen as often now that it doesn't bother him.

One of the books we read said "People with nothing to hide, hide nothing." IMO, it wouldn't bother him if everything on there was innocent.

My WH has no problem with me checking his phone. He leaves his phone out in the open and I can pick it up and look at any time. I track his phone when he is not with me and is totally ok with that. He has changed phone numbers, deactivated his email account t, and deactivated his Facebook. At this point it's all or nothing and I won't accept any BS. He is more than fine with all of it as he should be.