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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 7:35 PM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
So happy for you! 
WhoIsThisWoman ( member #27424) posted at 10:52 PM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
What a great story. So happy for you... Going to pay more attention to when I'm out at the grocery store...
Best of luck!
Me: 40 yo
STBXWW: 41 yo
Married 15 years, 4 kids.
EA in '07
PA in '09 (same OM)
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 11:34 PM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
GREAT first date!!! Can't wait to hear about the next one - that sounds really cool! 
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 11:36 PM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
So loved reading this. Can't wait for the next update! Thanks for helping keep hope alive! 
Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James
traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 3:55 AM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
Thanks everyone.
Definitely keep your eyes open in the grocery store 
More importantly, act in the moment, don't wait. The only moment you really have is NOW. Don't let fear every hold you back.
Just a few days before i met this wonderful woman in the grocery store I had read this article (someone may have posted in the NB here, I can't remember how I found it, if it was you, Thank You!):
http://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2013/08/the-loveliest-short-story-you-will-read-today-was-published-on-craigslist/278533/
As I was in the checkout lane, and had made eye contact, I thought immediately about this article, and how I would feel if I let this moment pass without saying something. So I acted, and I am so glad I did
[This message edited by traildad at 9:56 PM, September 14th (Saturday)]
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
timeforchange ( member #27454) posted at 6:09 AM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
Love your story and hope it brings hope to people still in the early stages of their journey into a new life after infidelity.
Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
Iamhappytoday ( member #39051) posted at 7:01 AM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
I just had the biggest bummer of a night, then read this, and all feels right in the world!
It seriously corrected my night!
I just wish you the best. Good for you for taking a chance.
This gives me hope. Wishing you continued happiness!
BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her. Divorced 8/11/15
traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 10:54 PM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
Well...we just spontaneously had our second date!! We were texting back and forth and realized that each of us was meddling around the house awaiting the arrival of our children...with three hours to spare. So I walked two blocks and we had some wine, watched some football, talked, and made out for a bit
Just an everyday Sunday afternoon
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 11:00 PM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
Fun. Keep the stories coming.
Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James
Brandon808 ( member #35619) posted at 1:26 AM on Monday, September 16th, 2013
Great story traildad. So refreshing to read something like this.
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 1:31 AM on Monday, September 16th, 2013
That's great Traildad. As someone involved in an LDR, I would love the opportunity to do something spontaneous like that with my special someone. Glad you two are clicking so well together.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
burnt_toast ( member #16891) posted at 2:11 AM on Monday, September 16th, 2013
swoon
I may have not gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.
- Douglas Adams
clralb ( member #17185) posted at 2:13 AM on Monday, September 16th, 2013
I have a big grin on my face reading your story!
Being a native Michigander, this time of the year is great for dates! Not too hot, yet not too cold yet. I miss this time of year there.
Wishing you the best
"To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear."
Buddha
veelop5 ( member #11089) posted at 2:21 PM on Monday, September 16th, 2013
This story made my eyes swell up with tears of joy for you...You give so many of us hope....enjoy the ride...she sounds lovely!!!!
ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013
Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 2:31 AM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
^^bumping for an update, Traildad
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
hitbyatruck ( member #23769) posted at 3:03 AM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
I don't really ever read too much down here in this forum but I have the time tonight....and I am so glad I did. I love a great true story. So happy I came late to the thread and was able to read it all at once.
Very happy for you and HER! How flattering. To be asked out in the grocery store after being at the gym, AWESOME!
Married 1998. 2 kids. First discovery 3/2009. Multiple affairs, porn addiction. one failed attempt at R. Nested for over a year. Divorce final 8/2015. XH is now married. I am engaged!
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 7:13 AM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
My favorite thread currently
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 8:36 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
Good afternoon! I'm back for a quick update. Would have been sooner, but...
we had a wonderful third date on Friday night. A fun dinner being introduced to sushi by a very helpful waitstaff, attempting to use chopsticks. Shared some wine afterward, and had some deep talks about where we are in life, and how we felt about this 'relationship' (meaning we agreed this was now a relationship), it was a very intimate talk, a very intimate evening
She is a really wonderful woman. She didn't choose her D (not infidelity related), but has pulled herself up and has hit her stride in life, she is very happy being who she is, with or without someone. We have found ourselves meeting at a time where we are both cruising along comfortably with our own lives. Both in very healthy places, not expecting this to happen, not looking for this to happen. I think that makes it all the more exciting. Neither of us 'need' to be with someone, but we want to be with each other. We are bringing our healthiest selves into this, and our guard is slowly dropping.
Then last night she came over...and we talked for hours...just talked, could have talked all night, but we have responsibilities, a lot of them. Looking forward to when we can see each other again.
I am so glad that four weeks ago today I recognized a moment that truly could be life changing. I am savoring the joy of this moment, no matter where this road leads. Thanks for following along.
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 8:44 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 9:46 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
Your story gives so much hope.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
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