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cmego ( member #30346) posted at 10:15 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
So happy that good things do happen, keep us updated 
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 10:34 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
This is a great thread, traildad! I haven't been around in a while, but glad I dropped in last night and saw this. Had to check again when I saw there were more posts.
And to think, this started with a first date on Friday the 13th!! Glad you're not superstitious! 
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 11:01 PM on Sunday, September 22nd, 2013
I am so happy for you, Traildad
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 3:57 AM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
I just love this and am so excited for you both!
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 5:37 AM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
Just so you know traildad, I make SI my last stop before I go to bed on Sunday, just hoping for a update from you. Thanks for not disappointing me but thanks more for giving all of us hope. After reading so many sad stories (and that's not even counting my own!) it's refreshing to see a nice guy finishing first. Well done, sir! Lucky you and lucky her! 
**edited to fix "forgiving" to "for giving"--a Freudian slip, perhaps 
[This message edited by meaniemouse at 11:39 PM, September 22nd (Sunday)]
Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James
Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 4:19 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
What a wonderful update. Thanks for sharing and taking us along on your journey.
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
Blackhair ( member #39451) posted at 10:20 AM on Tuesday, October 1st, 2013
M: 10 years both late 40s.
3 Children
DDay: April 2013
Legally separated on Oct 2013.
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!
traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 2:23 PM on Saturday, October 12th, 2013
We have been on several more dates, with plans to spend most of this afternoon and evening together. A concert planned for next month. More fun and laughter with each date. A little apprehension from each of us as perhaps we didn't quite expect this, and were both pretty darn happy being single. Letting things develop naturally.
Oh, one other thing...I slipped and told her about this thread...and she has read the entire thing, and loved it!!!
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 2:32 PM on Saturday, October 12th, 2013
Oh, one other thing...I slipped and told her about this thread...and she has read the entire thing, and loved it!!!
Slipped? Really?
You just wanted to introduce you closest 40,000 friends to her. 
This such a great thread Traildad. I'm so happy for you and your SO.
[This message edited by gahurts at 8:33 AM, October 12th (Saturday)]
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
torn2bits ( member #28376) posted at 1:43 AM on Sunday, October 13th, 2013
Ok traildad, soooo happy for you both.
Carp diem!!!!
We know you are both well. This is really all we need to know.
On with your great adventure!
Cheers!
Me: 45/WH (SA): 49
M: 26 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce halted
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 9:11 AM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
I wondered how she would feel about this thread!!!
Sounds like you have a really awesome woman!
Congrats!
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
Elaine2012 ( member #36099) posted at 8:22 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
Nice to see an update! I've checked back a few times wondering.
Me- 60 ish
WH-no longer relevant
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 3 SIL, 6 grandchildren
IndianDreams ( new member #40991) posted at 6:56 PM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
I've only just come across this thread tonight and have read the whole thing in one go, all 7 pages, with a great big grin on my face and even a tear in my eye at points.
I don't know you TrailDad but like all of us here you deserve your happy ending - relish every second of it
It wasn't my fault; my bucket was broken
NC = no new hurts
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 5:20 AM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
It's nice to share.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 9:52 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
Reading this just makes me wanna go 
Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James
traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 12:43 AM on Friday, November 15th, 2013
I started to write about the dates (there have been many!), the fun we've been having (a lot), and even the "big" steps we've taken. That would've been fun to share, and I will. But it really isn't about all of that. It's about moments. The moment I watched her walk on stage to perform in a community theatre play, that feeling of pride. The moment when she shared and celebrated a new beginning for me in a new house. That moment I realized I was going to miss her as I walked out the door, not to see her for 12 days. The moment she looked amazing in a ball cap and jeans cooking dinner. There have been many moments, all starting in the grocery store checkout lane. The beauty being that my life experience has taught me to savor these moments without fear or apprehension. I wrote a post about fear over a year ago. That was about fear of negative events. I didn't realize that the greatest threat to joy was fear, that fear can keep us from fully enjoying those moments. Letting go of that fear is powerful, exciting, and joyful. I like her very much, and I am enjoying each step of this journey as it unfolds naturally. Thanks everyone for following along.
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
thyme2go ( member #12908) posted at 3:18 AM on Friday, November 15th, 2013
Good for you. Enjoy what you have while you have it and certainly don't ever take it for granted. My NB has not gone so well.
-t2g
BH - no longer 50
3 DD's - (32, 28 and 21)
Divorced on 8/6/09
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 3:39 AM on Friday, November 15th, 2013
I agree…fear stops us from just saying, "screw it, I'm going for it!" and seeing if we find joy behind the fear.
So glad it is continuing to go well for you. You give many of us hope
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 5:39 AM on Friday, November 15th, 2013
I don't know how I missed this thread way back in September. Glad I found it now. So very happy for you Traildad. Love the lesson about savoring life's moments--I agree 100%--the moments are where life happens.
Smiling for you tonight! (Smiling and thinking YIPPPEEE for both of them!!!)
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
Blackhair ( member #39451) posted at 9:02 AM on Friday, November 15th, 2013
Thanks for the updates, it is wonderful to hear the happy story.
M: 10 years both late 40s.
3 Children
DDay: April 2013
Legally separated on Oct 2013.
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!
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