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gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 4:29 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
Great story Traildad. You just never know when you will meet someone and what the circumstances will be. So happy you took the chance. Good luck!
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traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 5:01 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
Aww! Moment 
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 5:27 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
Def call her before her children come home!
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caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 6:45 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
Seen the commercial where the cute guy picks up the girl who needs gas for her truck? He hesitates and doesn't ask for her number but finds it written in the dust on the trunk of his car. He is on the phone before the commercial ends.
Call. If you are interested, call.
And cool story!
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traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 8:54 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
Thanks everyone. Quick update. I waited until I had a few quiet moments away from the kids and called her this afternoon. It went straight to voice mail without ringing. I left a very brief message indicating I hoped we could connect soon, hoping her weekend was enjoyable, and my phone number. More to come...
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
Survivor3512 ( member #37946) posted at 9:00 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
Great post! I hope you hear back from her soon. :)
Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie
meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 9:21 PM on Sunday, August 25th, 2013
I love this story! However it turns out (and I get a feeling that it's going to be good)it's a great "how we met" story, it gives people hope that you CAN really meet someone cool IRL, doing the everyday normal things that responsible people do, it's so real that both of you were a little nervous, it's wonderfully brave for you to reach out and for her to be open to it, it was perfect that you called within a short time and it's even good that it went to voice mail.
Now my imagination is running away with me.
I like to imagine that she was busy doing the things that moms do when they have a free weekend and had been checking her phone every 5 minutes to see if you had called. The call probably came in between her quick checks and I bet that she is dancing around smiling from ear to ear that you actually called. She's probably stressing about how to contact you back--wondering if she should call or text, what she should or shouldn't say, and has butterflies in her stomach. You know that time when something happens in your life and it's just the beginning and you have everything ahead of you and you think, "gee, I wonder if I'll remember this day, just like it happened, however many years from now?"
I just think it everything about it is way coooooool. 
And pardon my overactive imagination 
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traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 12:14 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
I love the imagination meanie...
She called back about an hour after I left her a message. We were eating dinner so I couldn''t answer. Been busy with evening routine ever since. Do you think at this point it would be appropriate to send her a quick text asking if there is a convenient time to call? I am sure she is in the midst of bedtime routines as well.
Thanks everyone for the kind words and advice...
[This message edited by traildad at 9:43 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 12:31 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
Yes, entirely appropriate. Go for it!
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 12:38 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 1:00 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
Gosh, I've followed your story, Traildad!
Swooning as well...
Best of luck to you....
Yes text! EEEEK!
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EA on a slippery slope...
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traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 3:17 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
...and we just talked on the phone for 80 minutes! Turns out we live two blocks away from each other (for now, I'm moving). We were both pretty nervous (I get quiet when I'm nervous, I think she talks lol)
We have a date scheduled for our next coinciding day without children...in three weeks 
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3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 3:20 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
We have a date scheduled for our next coinciding day without children...in three weeks
That sounds like single parent's schedules. 
But YAY !!!
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 3:22 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
Yay! I'm so happy for you.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:42 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
Well done, traildad.
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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:07 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
Awwwww I'm so glad to see the update traildad! I came on SI tonight primarily to check this thread! I just LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this story.
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5454real ( member #37455) posted at 4:43 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
And this IS how it begins. Not in a bar, not on an OLD, simply in a grocery check out line. No expectations, no false visions!!!
Go brother!!!
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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 5:12 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
Well played, my friend.
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PanicAttack53 ( member #34195) posted at 6:33 AM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
This made my day and is so awesome to hear td!!! Here's wishing you all the best my friend!
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Griefstricken25 ( member #29183) posted at 1:16 PM on Monday, August 26th, 2013
This is amazing! Go traildad!
*Mental note - buy some loose fitting sweatpants to wear to the grocery store next time. 
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