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completeshock ( member #19334) posted at 6:45 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
((DaysOfMyLife&Kids))
No words, but you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve.
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 6:46 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
(((DaysOfMyLife)))
I am so sorry.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
slipperyslope321 ( member #33112) posted at 6:49 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
DOML. I'm so sorry, sending you and your children prayers and strength.
Me: BS
HIM: WH
DD1 1/11 fb chats
DD 4/11 txt msgs
DD 5/11 hidden accounts for underground EA. Busted it wide open.
DD2 8/2012, new OW
Divorcing
sleepless34 ( member #40274) posted at 6:55 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
So so very sorry. I too have said I wished my STBXH was dead, but no one really means that.
This is not your fault, and it is not fair and you and your family do not deserve this. This was about someone very broken and also very selfish to do this to the kids. You couldn't have done anything for him, no one could fix him or prevent it. It was him, and his actions.
A neighbor of mine had this happen. I don't know her that well, but she is a friend of a friend. She divorced her husband, I think he was bi-polar and she had no choice after lots of hard years. She has two daughters, they were middle school/Jr high age at the time. It was awful for them and everyone, but they got into counseling and they are okay now. One is in high school, doing jsut great, and her sister is in college and they survived it- still go to counseling, but they are okay and you and your kids will be okay.
Again, I am so so sorry.
Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...
ExposedNiblet ( member #30803) posted at 7:17 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
I'm so sorry DOMYL. Please accept my condolences.
ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 7:17 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
I am so very sorry. 
“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 7:18 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
I don't have any words of advice. I just wanted to reply to provide hugs to you and your family.
(((DaysOfMyLife and kids)))
Sending you strength.
deeplysad ( member #16590) posted at 7:49 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
So very sorry for you and your children.
(((Hugs)))
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 7:57 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
When I was a sophomore in college, I found out my high school boyfriend killed himself. I had seen him over Christmas break but hadn't acknowledged him. I was super sick, felt gross and crappy and just ... well there's no excuse really except it was at a store and I just wanted to get out, go home and go back to bed.
It was the summer after that he did it. I felt guilty for the longest time. That I hadn't reached out. That I had ignored him. That I hadn't stayed in contact.
It took me a long time to realize that none of that mattered. He had always had a tough time mentally.
People say suicide is selfish because of all the hurt left behind. I guess. But my old boyfriend. He suffered so. And while I think of him from time to time, I also know the demons in his head are quiet, dead and gone with him. A strange bit of comfort, but there it is.
I'm glad you are there for your children. Your constancy and consistency will help them through this. I hope you too have someone to lean on to help you process all of this.
(((daysofmylife)))
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 9:39 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
So, so sorry Days. For you and you kids.
((((((((HUGS))))))) to you all.
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
Girlietoo ( member #38719) posted at 9:51 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
I don't personally subscribe to the notion that suicidal people are selfish but rather very, very ill.
I realize your former husband did something that hurt you deeply. I suspect that perhaps his behaviour was a resulted of deeper issues that culminated in his suicide. I hope you know that you didn't cause this and there was probably nothing you could have done to change the outcome.
I am sending healing thoughts to you and yours.
Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 10:10 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss.
Hugs
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 10:18 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
I am so very sorry. (((DaysOfMyLife)))
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 10:25 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
Wow. I'm so sorry (((DaysOfMyLife & family))).
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 10:26 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
Oh DOML I am so very sorry. Strength and love to you and your children - (((HUGS)))
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 10:26 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
I'm very sorry for all of you.
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 10:29 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
Oh, no. I'm so sorry. Love and prayers for all of you.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 10:53 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
My thoughts are with you and your kids
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
HeavyE ( member #19333) posted at 11:34 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
njgal480 ( member #24938) posted at 11:40 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
I am so sorry.
Sending you and your children my condolences.
Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Reconciled.
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