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Doesn't Mercedes make the Smart Car?

Shhhhhhh!!!!

WB, if he had an old beat up truck, I would be 100% fine! It's just that in this toy he makes me feel less than. Who cares if his big truck is old? But I CARE if his new car is a toy. YUK!

I would feel less than, I mean WTF if I have to drive my CRV b/c he drives a toy.

I think he is a really, really nice guy I just think that him being OK w/ driving a toy as a 56 year old man is almost embarrassing at best!

It's just that in this toy he makes me feel less than.

He can't make you feel "less than" EW. This is a self imposed choice that you are making.

I think smart cars are adorable and no doubt they are great for the environment. I just wouldn't drive one or ride in one simply because of the safety issues. Same reason I wouldn't ride a motorcycle or scooter. I'm just a big fat chicken who is afraid of getting hurt.

I hate spending money on gas so I would think its pretty cool to date a man w a smart car. Gas mileage is the first thing I think of w cars! I don't see it as showing less masculinity. In fact he may be more secure in his manliness if he drives a smart car.

I think you are mismatched. If you can't respect him and think a tiny car means he is less a man you should let him go.

Ugh! I think I made a mistake jumping into the dating pool.

It's just sometimes I feel lonely...

EW, he just doesn't "turn your crank". Don't worry!!! Someone will show up sooner than ya think. Hang in there.

Smart Cars aren't toys they are real cars. Visit any European city (or increasingly, large metropolitan cities in North America) and you will see them driven by all ages and walks of life.

I don't get your issue, but I don't think I could fall for a guy driving a Hummer (irnonically because I think they scream overconsumption), so to each his/her own I guess!

Sorry you get lonely (((EW))).

Soo...guys, how do I let him know he is not for me?

He already offered to take down his profile on the dating site we both were on. He is all into me.

I researched a bit further and his lifestyle is definately not compatible with mine. He sounded good on paper but now that I had a chance to check him out, he is a nice guy but not something I am remotely interested in.

HELP!

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 3:41 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)]

Just text him and tell him that you don't think you're a match and wish him well.

NL

NL,

I just emailed him. He doesn't have a phone so I sent him an email. Gosh I feel bad, even though it was just one date!

This shit is not for me!

EW,

I would be concerned that the smart car is not safe. You would lose in any accident, except maybe a bike. I would offer to take my car.

The fact that he doesn't have a phone, that would be the deal breaker for me.

Next!

MS, I already wrote him an email since he doesn't have a phone.

I think I am going to step back and not date. This is just not working for me...

(((EW)))

Don't be so hard on yourself because he wasn't for you!! It's OK.

I think Smart cars are ugly and not as practical as a slightly larger car that gets just as good or better mileage, but if I were single, a guy driving a Smart car would not be a deal breaker and I would think he was intelligent and did not like wasting hard earned money. My H drives a Chevy Aveo that gets 35 mpg, but the man I met and married would not likely have owned such a car. He has come my way when it comes to a lot of things related to spending. The guys at his job pick on him about his rollerskate, but hey he has manly Harley-Davidson decals on the windows so that helps!

Now as for me, the 13 year age difference would be a deal breaker, and I also believe that would prevent any "butterflies" from ever happening with the guy. But different things are attractions or turnoffs to different people. The car would not be a problem for me, but when I was single after divorcing my first H, made a decision I would not date anybody more than five years older or younger than me.

Exit, frankly, if I were the man and knew how you felt, I would feel you were shallow and vain and I would probably say next.

He runs his life as he sees fit, and while it isn't what you would do, it isn't along the same lines as something like abuse. It is just a choice. If you don't like his choice, YOU have choices (one of which, if you value his friendship, is NOT to criticize his choice).

When I met GDM, he had been separated for nearly 2 years, divorced for nearly 1.5 years and didn't have any furniture. Seriously . . . a kitchen table, a dining room set, a study with a desk and some Queen Anne chairs and tables/lamps, some folding chairs and some secondhand wicker. No bed. An empty living room. Two totally empty bedrooms.

Yes, I could have walked. I felt it was odd. But as I got to know him, I found out more about what made him tick, and it definitely wasn't furniture (and BTW, he could afford just about anything he wanted--it wasn't a money thing). The more I got to know him, the less it mattered. And funny enough, the more I "mattered" to him, the more he wanted to nest his house. It's lovely now.

Men (and women) are a package--some stuff you like, some stuff you love and some stuff you can take or leave. If the Smartcar is a dealbreaker, do the kind thing and say goodbye. Personally, I save the dealbreaker stuff for things along the line of betrayal, deceit, drugs, abuse . . . not Smartcars.

Cat

I can beat you all

I once dated a man who drove a Volkswagen Cabriolet. He liked it because he lived in a very tiny house in a run-down city. The Cabriolet would *just* fit into the garage (the garage was that tiny). That was important, because the streets were very narrow, parking was at a premium, and once it snowed and the city plowed...well...you can imagine.

One day, the Cabriolet finally died. So he replaced it with a Smart car.

He's a looker, too. Looks like Liam Neeson.

And he's 6'5" and 250 pounds. You haven't lived until you've seen that sight.

Hope4

TR, that picture you posted is larger than that car is IRL!!!!

I wouldn't mind the Smart Car, depending on where you lived. Up here in the great white north, it would be a death trap. In a large city with warmer weather, it's a good choice. I would be really scared in it if everything else on the road was huge. I don't think the Smart Car itself would be a turnoff. Sounds like you just have way different life styles, so you did the right thing.

[This message edited by kernel at 8:48 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)]

Oh EW I'm sorry - and I don't think I could do it either unless there was some crazy chemistry going on - lol. It's not that I look down on it, it's just not for me. I wouldn't feel safe at all!

It is a little unusual in your area. I'm a little north of you in Texas and they are a little more common here but it still wouldn't work for me. (And the single dad I'm seeing drives a Rav so nothing like a big truck lol)

You did the right thing - so time to move on - ((Hugs))

He's just something to do until something better comes around. Don't count him out just yet. But know that this won't be long term. Like you said, he doesn't make much money so don't put to much into this.