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Smart cars are actually pretty safe. The passenger compartment is surrounded by a hardened steel cage. Statistically, they are much safer than an SUV, which has a higher center of gravity and a higher rollover risk.

If I were him, I wouldn't be interested in someone who would judge me for the car I drove.

[This message edited by h0peless at 9:30 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)]

Personally, I save the dealbreaker stuff for things along the line of betrayal, deceit, drugs, abuse . . . not Smartcars.

Me too. Because honestly, good men are hard to find. And I am so past the superficial crap...the biggest turn on for me at this point is the way a man treats me.

Also, it takes time for REAL chemistry to build. If you are feeling chemistry on the first date, that is the superficial type that may or may not last depending on how you two get along. I've learned that true deep love comes from within, and feeling safe and secure, being able to trust your partner, and knowing that your partner is making you a priority and going out of his way to make you happy rates way far above what he drives, what he wears, or where he lives. If I end up living with someone, some of that stuff is going to change anyway. All that stuff is negotiable. What is not negotiable is how me makes me feel inside.

I do think stepping back for a little bit might be a good idea, or you may have to be like me and have enough guys treat you like crap until you finally do appreciate the true deeper qualities....

I didn't read any of the replies exit, so sorry if I repeat anything that has been said.

I don't think it has ANYTHING to do with the smart car being a deal breaker...I think you are using that as an excuse to use that as a deal breaker because you don't want to feel bad for not being attracted to this "nice wonderful guy". If the chemistry isn't there, it just might not be.

If you like talking to him on the phone rather than seeing him, that says a lot.

If you really liked this guy and the chemistry was there, trust me...the smart car would NOT even be an issue.

OK my SI peeps,

here is an update!

I checked him out a little more. His neighborhood is scary! Not safe to drive during the day, forget the night! Also he said "I make HIM feel safe" WTF? HE IS THE GUY! I should feel safe around HIM!

Sorry, next!

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 9:28 AM, September 5th (Thursday)]

EW - maybe he means he feels safe emotionally. Like you are not a bitch, psycho, clinger or whatever it is he isn't looking for. Men need to feel safe too EW - not sure what your deal is with that. I definitely think you aren't ready to date though.

(((EW)))

[This message edited by kwash at 1:49 PM, September 5th (Thursday)]

Wow - I have to chime in. I am astounded that the car make/model driven is even a factor in the relationship building process. With my 1995 Honda Civic, I guess I am toast.

I could buy whatever car I want but I put my money away so that I can travel around the world and such.

For the record - I love Smart cars. I was driving from Venice to Milan in the middle of the night one time and had a car go blazing by me... a Smart car. I tried to catch it with my rental Ford Focus wagon... I could not.

-t2g

PS - The Smart car received the highest rating of good in front-end and side-impact testing by the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety.

No phone would be a dealbreaker for me, just sayin

What if he drove this bad ass Smarrari. Now this is a mans car!!!

You know, when I first read this I was a little offended. While I don't have a Smart car (have two kids to haul around) I dream for the days when I can get one. I would totally love to date a guy w a smart car, maybe that why my undergraduate degree is in Environmental Bio.

But then I realized that I would probably not date someone in a giant, gas guzzling truck (unless they were a contractor and actually needed one). We all have our likes and dislikes

million pieces - I said something similar, that I would have a hard time dating someone with a Hummer. But to be honest if I met the guy first and hit it off and then found out he had a Hummer, I would think there must be some reason other than his car that I was interested in him and would continue to get to know him in spite of him having a vehicle that I think is ridiculous.

I think the Smart Car issue is a red herring for some other issues EW is having with dating. It seems like the small car = small man in her eyes and that is the bigger problem.

I think that the car someone drives doesn't have to say a thing about them other than "this is teh car I drive". It's the person inside the car that matters if you ask me.

Also he said "I make HIM feel safe"

My guy tells me that also. I am his safe place, his "home base". He is my safe place also. Physically, I know he will take care of me if someone is threatening but emotionally we are able to be open, loving, vulnerable and real. He has even cried with me (and he holds me when I cry also.) I wouldn't trade this for a dozen alpha-male bad boys.....

All that matters is that they aren't a match. Better not to stretch it out when that is the case.

I want all of them!

http://www.gizmag.com/smart-body-kits-the-smorsche-smerrari-smorvette-and-smamborghini/10442/

I used to care what cars people drove, including myself, but I just don't anymore. It sounds like your personalities are incompatible. That's okay, move to the next!

Exit you were already ready to dump him anyway. You were just looking for reasons so you didn't feel bad. Don't feel bad for not liking the guy - sometimes you just don't.