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whatjusthappened (original poster member #34695) posted at 3:28 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
My situation is a little different in that OW's H was not an "innocent betrayed" in all of this. He was the one who set up the threesomes between FWH and him and OW and told FWH that if I wasn't going to agree to swinging and/or group sex that he "needed to look out for his (FWH's) own needs." I remain convinced that the only reason OWH told me about the A is because OW and FWH broke his rules by cutting him out.
They've always had a shitty relationship. And after DDay she tried to apologize by saying that it wasn't her fault, and that she never meant for me to be involved in her terrible marriage. FWH and I responded with crickets to that, and to her subsequent fishing expeditions.
Just heard from a mutual friend that she's convinced he's cheating on her. And she's heartbroken and can't believe it.
Poor, stupid, pathetic OW. 
Me - 40
Him - 39
Married 16 years
2 DS
Day my world crashed down: 12/22/11
In R. Seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 5:24 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
Karma??
Hey lady! How are you?
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 7:24 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
Yup. What goes around, comes around.
Poor widdle muffin...
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 7:55 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
Yep..It makes you wonder how anyone can think that both spouses screwing around can ever result in a good outcome. If you want to screw around with other people, just stay single!!!
After I filed for D from XWH#1, I found a membership to a swingers club under his nightstand drawer. I never asked him about it because at that point I didn't want to know what he was involved in. I just went and got STD tested to make sure he hadn't passed anything on to me.
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 12:43 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:25 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
Hope it hurts OW a lot. I do wish this pain on my worst enemies. ( I only have one, OW!)
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
pewpewpew ( member #38116) posted at 4:35 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
I just love that bitch, Karma!
BS - 32
DDay 1: July 2012 - EA with COW
DDay 2: March 2015; same COW
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, pack your shit and get out.
Fool me twice, now what?!?!
whatjusthappened (original poster member #34695) posted at 9:46 PM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
Yep, Karma's a beyotch! confused, are you a Southern girl? Because my Southern momma always said that: Bless her heart, and the more adjectives she used ("Bless her poor, little, ever-lovin' heart"), the more she was saying "Eff you!"
Hi TG!!! Things here continue to go really, really well. Despite this short rant against Whorseface, we're healing really well.
Me - 40
Him - 39
Married 16 years
2 DS
Day my world crashed down: 12/22/11
In R. Seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 9:51 PM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
Bwahahahahahahahaha!
Bless her broken heart!
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
niaveone ( member #40317) posted at 12:33 AM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
MOW in my case was in an "open marriage" but it was a shitty one. Her husband got pissed about her relationship with WS, even though he was in a relationship with someone else too. That's how the whole affair blew up to begin with....her husband getting jealous of my WS. 
They tried getting back together after DD#2, but I guess it's been short lived. She's been back living in the house since July 1st, and they are going through with divorce now.
Can't say I feel sorry for either of them, however, I DO feel sorry for the kids (11 and 14) that have to be dragged along for the *fun* of it. 
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married: 24 years
2 children
2 DDays
Reconciling
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