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Thank you "mchercheur" for bringing that very apt article to our attention.

What an absolute loser this guy turned out to be. I hope the girl in question basked in her revenge. I would so love to do something like this, BUT when all is said and done, I gotta be a good role model for my two daughters (heaven forbid they ever encounter a loser like their dad). We are slowly putting the shattered pieces of our lives together.

This article did make me laugh - gotta admit, it is so comforting to read of others' plights and know that unfortunately we are not alone in our mire.

Thank you, once again for posting this article, it was so worthwhile

What you are experiencing is completely natural and expected. However, I caution you against doing anything rash when you are not in the right frame of mind.

You don't want to stoop to their level. You don't want them to think they've gotten to you/devastated you (especially you don't want the OW to think this) and it's not like they are going to learn an important lesson from some sort of revenge.

So be wise about anything you decide to do. I had a lot of big plans for getting revenge on my WH's AP...but in the end I abandoned the plans because I want to direct my energy to MY healing.

I am thinking that when my divorce is final, I will put BOTH of them on cheaterville! LOL

I think the injustice of it all is one of my biggest areas of struggle.

I think if we weren't trying to make our marriage work I would be driving the karma bus.

Certainly I regularly think about putting her cell number and an advert for free BJs on the back of the men's loo doors at her local park and mall. In fact it is mostly the likelihood of me being caught heading into the male toilets that stops me.

I think revenge is a very normal emotion to feel.

I generally give stuff that is mean spirited a wide berth...but man I have been getting a perverse joy out of reading about revenges.

One particularly memorable one was a BW found out the OW was getting a tattoo. OW wanted narnia on her back. BW made a deal with artist. Artist got OW to sign a consent form to allow the artist to put whatever on her back 'artistic license' sort of thing. OW got a huge tattoo on her back alright - but of a pile of poo surrounded by flies. I totally cackled.

I'm sure I'll be able to let this go, but for now, it'll be my guilty pleasure...like chocolate, but less fattening. :)

headdesk - that is hilarious, you made me smile.

Thank you for taking the time out to post.

Good luck to you on your journey, I hope today is a good day for you.

SurelyNOT - I think we all have had similar fantasies along the way. Just know that you are always welcome to come here and vent away. It is usually enough to burn off the steam, and if not a little time on a treadmill helps too.

This post and all the comments make me feel so much better. I too fantasize about exacting revenge on the whore who inserted herself into our marriage. A billboard for sure, and my husband drove her around in his sports car (which I have dubbed the whoremobile) and have asked him to sell. I wanted to spray paint in red on the passenger side -'her name' is a WHORE. I also wanted to carve WHORE into the passenger seat. My daughter had me listen to Carrie Underwood's song "Before He Cheats" and it was so perfect I made it my ringtone specifically for when he calls. Only snafu was one day I was at school signing my youngest child out and he called. "Before He Cheats" played loud and proud and the ladies at the desk just smiled. I now silence my phone if I am going to be in meeting or school. I am not changing the ringtone though because it is too perfect. I am so happy to have this forum to post things we would like to do, but never would because revenge just lowers us to their level. But it does give us a creative outlet, so thank you.