To recap, I am highly suspicious of my WW of having a PA. About a year and half ago, I got infected with pubic crabs (and I have never ever been unfaithful or shared linens/towels/bedding with an infected person). At the time, I did not think much of it and thought it was headlice. I treated myself and did not think about my WW infidelity - until this August 2013. I confronted my WW about the pubic crabs in late August 2013. She was highly defensive and accused me of cheating.
So, now I am in stealth mode trying to see what's up. About 2 weeks ago, my WW tells me that she is having vaginal itching. About a day later she then tells me that she has pain with urination. I tell her that we need to get this checked out and that I would schedule an appointment with her gynecologist. She told me that it wasn't necessary and that the symptoms would probably go away in a few days. A few days go by and now she is having pink and slightly bloody vaginal discharge. I guess it was bad enough because she finally asked to set up an appointment with her doc.
The provider was nice enough to see us that day. I was not able to stay for the appointment. But, they did some tests. However, when asked if there's possibility of STD, my WW said no. She was not tested for any STDs. Instead, my WW downplayed the vaginal itching and pain with urination and stressed the intermenstrual bleeding. They did a swab for bacterial makeup in the vagina (looking for BV or bacterial vaginosis - over overgrowth of harmful bacteria).
When I get home from running errands, my WW tells me that she got a call from the doc office. They said that the test for vaginal bacterial overgrowth is positive and that she needs an antibiotic (Metronidiazole) for treatment of presumably bacterial vaginosis.
Today, I talked to the provider about her appointment and the positive bacterial overgrowth test. When I asked the provider about the positive bacterial
overgrowth test, she seemed puzzled and told me that test was negative (and there was no need to take that medication). As we talked more, I ask her if other tests were performed (STD testing and pap smear). These tests were not done.
Anways, I get things straightened out and have WW scheduled to go in at the end of this week to get the pap smear, HPV test and STD testing. Of course, the provider said that I would need to talk to the WW about the STD testing.
When my WW gets home from work today, I tell about the tests and what we needed to do. I was honest and told her that there's a possibility that the cause for her symptoms could be due to cervical lesions, endometrial lining pathology, polpys, fibroids, and STD's. I told her that Chlamydia can certainly cause the problem.
Her reaction was interesting. First, she was kind of mad that we were told the wrong information about the bacterial overgrowth test. Then, she started to say we need to find a different provider.
I basically told her that these symptoms were serious and that we need to do all the tests to rule out or rule in the disease.
So after dinner, I am at my computer and the WW comes in and asks me when will I be apologizing to her for accusing her of infecting me with crabs. This came out of nowhere. Why toninght? She wanted to know when I would apologize for accusing her of being unfaithful. WTF?
Then we get into this heated discussion. She asks me why I thought we should have the provider run tests for STDs.
I take Bigger's advice and say that we need honesty and need to each take a poygraph test to see who is telling the truth about the crabs. She says I cheated. I say she brought the crabs into our marriage.
Of course, my WW refuses to take the polygraph. She says even if she passed the test, that I am so obsessed that I would not be satisfied and keep trying to find things to accuse her of. She goes on to tell me that I am the one with the problem and that she has done nothing wrong.
I asked her numerous times to get the polygraph. But, she was adamant and keep blaming me.
I asked her why of all nights would she come to me asking for an apology about the crabs. I mean that confrontation was in August 2013. Of course, she had no answer. I am thinking that she is worrying about the possibility that she contracted Chalmydia and that the next visit to the doc will prove it. but, I could be wrong.
This is really going nowhere. There is no way she will admit to any wrongdoing. I asked her what happens next if the test comes back positive for Chlamydia. She shrugged her shoulders and then began to accuse me of bringing the disease into the marriage. I told her that it was not possible because my recent STD checkup was negative for all diseases. She had no response.
This thing is getting ugly.
