I am nee here but have lurked awhile. First background then questions. I need serious advice.
I was dating my ex bf for 12 years. He talked me into getting pregnant after 3 years. My son was born in Jan 2005 two years later my daughter was born. That is when he started staying at work "late" every night. Like until midnight. He started being secretive and every thing he said was a lie.
One year after my daughter I had to have an emergency full hysterectomy at the age of 32. Lost my ovaries and all. Menopause sucks btw ladies. While in the hospital my kids went to grandma's house so he could stay with me. I was in for four days. He spent a total of 30 minutes. I.would later learn he was in a hotel shacked up with some slut he met the day before off craigslist. After that I knew he was cheating but did not have proof. Then Sept 2012 I finally learned he was in a 10 month affair with an 18 year old. She had been 18 by only three weeks when they started hooking up. He was 35. Awesome right? NOT!!!
I ended things. He asked that the kids and I stay in the house and he would pay the bills until I could get employeed and some money saved. We had a three story house so he moved into the basement.
All was ok until I started dating a friend if mine that I use to work with. He hss gotten s divorce, said hi on FB to me and we went out. We always had this chemistry but were in relationships so we never acted inopriate. He was also cheated on bad by his ex-wife. So we started to date and go slow.
My kids are not legitimate in the state of Ga by my ex btw. I finally got a job (start Monday) and signed a lease on a home to move in next month.
On Saturday I told my ex and he lost it. He was screaming at me in front of the kids, tried to kidnap tbe kids until I got them in my car and had them lock the doors. Then I tried to call 911 four times all four times he hung up my phone and finally took it from me. He held me down inside the house, drug me up the stairs by my ankles and then told me he could kill me to where no one could find me.
I finally broke loose after 45 Min and got into my car with kids. I tore out of the driveway and to my surprose here came a cop. 911 looked up my number and dispatched the cop to the address where I called in last year when my daughter for choked. They took a chance that paid off.
my legs were bleeding. My arms and ankles already had bruises from how hard he was grabbing and holding me. They arrested him after I got the kids inside the house. He stayed in jail until Monday night. The judge would not set bond until I got my TPO and had him served in the jail. The victim advocate pit us in a confidential location and our hearing is Wednesday at 10 am where my attorney is asking for a 12 month tpo and child support of $950 a month.
Keep on mind i have been emotionally abised by him for years which started after my son was born. I have been physically abused the last 2 years but was always to scared to take a stand. I am terrified of this man. I mean i really think he could kill me. Even the judge i saw Mondah for TPO is worried too. He warner me a tpo usually Makes them more violent and to always know my surroundings.
Here are my questions:
1) anyone here ever get a tpo? What is the hearing like? Will the judge really look at how he is a liar all the time and see through it?
2) any idea on ways to make extra income? My salary isnt going to support me and kids. Right now i have $3.83 to my name. I hate knowing i have no way to raise kids. Sucks so bad right now i hate not knowing where i will living or how i will afford gas or food
3) how ling does it take for an answer if you apply online for food stamps and what is my chaces of approval? My new job is only $30k a year. That is it and i must pay daycare rent, insurance, Utlilties etc.
4)any other advice on something i might not be saking.
Thank you. I am just scared and worried and i just need to vent.