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painfulpast (original poster member #41038) posted at 9:27 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
That's what my husband said to me today, out of nowhere. I was sitting on the bed watching a tv show. He came it and sat on the bench at the foot of the bed to put his shoes and socks on. I didn't even notice he was looking at me, and I heard "you make me happy."
It's moments like this that I'm so glad I stayed. I couldn't tell you 2 years ago why I stayed. Today I can - because he makes me happy too.
DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:29 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
eachdayisvictory ( member #40462) posted at 11:16 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
Halleluiah. So good to hear. Real remorse is possible, and healing too.
Thanks for this.
me, BW: 37
FWH: 38
together 19 years, M 13 years
Dday: Feb 2013
LTA for 2+years
children: 2 boys age 6 and 9
Reconciled
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 12:31 AM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:42 AM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 1:48 AM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
painfulpast (original poster member #41038) posted at 2:19 AM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
times 100! There is no one that can make me feel as happy as my H.
He has been, as many say, a different man since the A. It's a long, sordid story (aren't they all???) but he has changed so much. He is now everything I've ever dreamt of in a husband. I used to resent that fact too, wondering why I had to go through so much pain to get to this place. Now? Now I just appreciate the husband I have.
I could spend all my time looking backwards, but after nearly 3 years, it feels so good to live in the present.
To anyone just starting out - getting here can be so hard, so challenging. You may feel like giving up, and maybe that's the right answer for some. For those that stick it out, there could be a very happy marriage on the other side.
Some will say 'once a cheater, always a cheater'. That isn't true. Some really learn from their mistakes. They see what is really important to them, and begin to appreciate the life they have.
DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband
JustDesserts ( member #39665) posted at 4:41 AM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
I like reading threads like this. A lot!
2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 51. Her: BW, 50. Married 20 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 5:38 PM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
Thank you for posting this.
All of us still struggling need to hear this. It helps to keep the hope alive.
It reminds us of what we are struggling for.
So happy that you both have achieved this.
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
toughernow ( member #40915) posted at 6:02 PM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
Thank you painfulpast.
This has given me renewed hope after a long and sleepless night.
BS (Me) - 47
WS(Him) -48
Married 23 years - together for 29 years
DDay - June 10th 2012 then TT'd-June 2012 - July 2012 (and beyond????)
2 amazing children
"Understanding love is one of the hardest things in life." - Fred Rogers
mellie99 ( member #39712) posted at 3:12 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
Thank you for sharing this; posts like this give me hope and encouragement that maybe I'm doing the right thing...
Me: BW (32)
Him: WS (31)-Multiple ONS
Married: 1/3/05 Together since 5/2002
D-Day #1-3/2009 (4 years after the fact)
D-Day #2 3/2013(he confessed to 3 more ONS, 1 the month I found out I was pregnant)
sinsof thefather ( member #29295) posted at 4:19 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
What a nice post! Thank you.
...second star to the right and straight on till morning.
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