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I just couldn't resist putting this out into the SI universe:

"Now you need to come to reality as well.

You are a 43 years old man in your prime of life and carreer. Although gentle you are testosterone driven. You need your ego and persona to be appreaciated by your woman to be able to have a fulfilling relationship with her. You need a strong woman by your side to strive on the carreer path laying ahead of you. You need somebody your equal to help you, guide you and push you to do and want more. Somebody who fully understand your work challanges.

You need a companion you can talk to you about everything. A woman that can expand your horizons, help improve your knowledge and understanding of the world. Somebody who can make you a fulll rounded leader and is there to nurtrure your inclinations. A woman that at the same time can be accomplished and self driven.

Right now in your marriage you don't have any of the above. You have care giver that tends to the financial aspect, organization and planning of your personal life and family. Somebody that takes care of your cooking and grooming needs and takes care of *kids* education. You have almost nothing in common and you don't do much together. You do more with *kid* and your friends.

>In a couple of years *kid* is going to have a car and drive to places with friends. He won't spend much time with you. A few years later he will go to college...What is going to be of you? If your life is boring now it would be way more then. You will be stuck with your frustrations and with the regreat that you could have done much more for yourself. And all that for the commitement you made when you were different persons. For love? No, I don't think so because the real love you have it with me."

Whining about WH telling her he wasn't going to leave me: "Do you ever tell her nice things about me?" Er, why would he ever mention his mistress to his wife?

After D-Day WH dragged his feet a bit looking for the "right time" to break it off with OW, so at one point she was under the impression that I thought it was just text flirting. In an email to him asking him why he wouldn't schedule a so-called "sleepover" with her: "What does flirting with other women have to do with you spending the night?"

And referring to me, "She needs to get her shit together and end this charade." Charade? Girl, I don't think that word means what you think it means.

After WH told OW it was over she immediately fired off an email to him with a CC to me at work (!) detailing the affair, with a side of crazy sauce.

"Thanks to you I'll never trust men again!" Uh, you knew he was married, you were married at one point too... and besides, who cares? Seriously, even if it were a normal relationship, the person breaking up with you probably doesn't care about your future trust issues!

Then not an hour later: "I never meant to hurt you. I can recall the email. Has she read it yet?"

Finally the day after a super-long text message with some garbage about "thank you for teaching me, for broadening my horizons..."

Given that she was a grown woman who lived on chicken fingers and mac 'n' cheese when the A started, her horizons needed some broadening. I just wish WH hadn't felt that he should be the one to do it.

She apologized to me but then said she was hurting too because she fell is love. Like I'm suppose to give a shit and feel sorry for her.

Oh! And she cried to my WH that she was upset because he hasn't been defending her more to me.

As if!

In the past week:

"I'm sorry you're still hurting Nest. I'll pray for you."

What. The. Fuck.

I take comfort in the fact that the bible says that unrepentant adulterers go to hell. And she sure as hell is unrepentant. Mods feel free to delete if this last part if my comment breaches the guidelines.

our OW had the nerve to say to me when i confronted her that "i dont go around stealing other peoples husbands". um, you just did! i ended the conversation right there because i just dont speak stupid.

Ok, well in a written apology to me, the OW (also a previous friend) referred to song lyrics to describe how she felt. (She didn't actually produce the lyrics, I was supposed to go look up the song on youtube, I guess.)

No, I am not kidding. . . Yes, she is in her '40s. . . And no, I didn't really care how she felt.

Mine is more of a stupid thing OW said. It's a quote from one of her social media profiles:

"My dreams are becoming to life."

Such a genius my STBXWH found.

How about this one:

"I feel like I'm the only one being punished for wanting to be with someone I care about."

Really? Leaving what the A did to me aside, I would think her XBH would count as being punished as well.

OW posted this on my timeline (before I blocked her for what must be the 5th time)

"Find someone that isn't afraid to admit they miss you. Someone that knows you're not perfect but treats you as if you are. Someone who couldn't imagine losing you. Someone who gives their heart to you completely. Someone who says I love you and proves it. Last, but not least, find someone who wouldn't mind waking up to you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and grey hair, but still falls in love with you all over again."

"Find someone that isn't afraid to admit they miss you. Someone that knows you're not perfect but treats you as if you are. Someone who couldn't imagine losing you. Someone who gives their heart to you completely. Someone who says I love you and proves it. Last, but not least, find someone who wouldn't mind waking up to you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and grey hair, but still falls in love with you all over again."

She posted that on your Timeline?!? Do these people have no shame at ALL?? No. They don't.

This one takes the cake.

"My dream is that one day we will be comfortable enough with each other to finally take a family vacation. By family I mean our families. The kids, me with my new husband and you with your new wife"

sorry. This was said by my WW

[This message edited by No12turn2 at 7:22 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]

No12turn2: That does take the cake. Worst one ever.

OP said I was "interfering in their relationship". What are these people drinking?

I have posted these before but in honor of this triggery holiday here goes:

"Why does struggling16 always get what she wants? " This was said because my WH said was going with me to visit my family for Christmas and he made it clear that he wasn't going to buy the AP the flat screen tv she wanted to give to her father for Christmas. Boohoo.

My personal favorite is when she thought it would be a good idea to have my stepson's child (my WH has a vasectomy).

The level of stupid boggles the mind.

Let's see, in an notpology letter when I had just found out about the first part of their relationship and told her (very nicely) to leave us alone:

"The only thing wrong with our relationship was that it started with sex."

And continued with sex, and ended with sex... Yeah, I guess the fact that you called my husband pet names was fine.

"I'm really going to miss hanging out with WH because he's my best friend."

Oh, really? The married guy you've known for 6 months that you've been lying to and intermittently fucking is your best friend? The guy who's been keeping you as a dirty little secret and lying to you right back? Set the bar pretty low for friendship, much?

I have lots of guy friends and I'm not blowing any of them. I must be a crappy friend.

"I never tried to take WH away from you."

Yeah, you really supported my relationship by screwing my husband behind my back and trying to rope him into a romantic attachment.

[This message edited by Thessalian at 9:23 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)]

"Find someone that isn't afraid to admit they miss you. Someone that knows you're not perfect but treats you as if you are. Someone who couldn't imagine losing you. Someone who gives their heart to you completely. Someone who says I love you and proves it. Last, but not least, find someone who wouldn't mind waking up to you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and grey hair, but still falls in love with you all over again."

I'd have to post my foot in OW's ass for that. WTF???? Delusional wench.

Their level of possessiveness to the WS is baffling; they think they have some secret relationship with our spouse that is actually built on truth and trust and honesty. They think they're getting 'the real' person in the A.

OW said to my H, after he told me about the A and the OC, "I don't even know you..." I honestly just about burst out laughing in her face.

Lol. The OW contacted me after he initiated NC. Saying she needed to "get it off her chest" b/c he wont call or message her and "its not fair she has to go through this". Really?? It's not fair to you Then she expects to get sympathy by saying she didn't know he was married....yet she knew how to contact me after NC?!?

"Find someone that isn't afraid to admit they miss you. Someone that knows you're not perfect but treats you as if you are. Someone who couldn't imagine losing you. Someone who gives their heart to you completely. Someone who says I love you and proves it. Last, but not least, find someone who wouldn't mind waking up to you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and grey hair, but still falls in love with you all over again."

O.M.G. Our MOW put that on her FB page as well. Said like the true fake boobed, black hair dyed, 90min a day workout queen that she was. Tru dat.