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[This message edited by SI Staff at 12:42 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)]

Sorry for the 'personal information'. I went back to delete it but it appears it is already gone.

You're my hero.

These moronic AP's don't realize that if they stayed under their rocks, we wouldn't give them another thought. I guess having a magical crotch gives them special powers.

It's always nice to hear when one of them gets a little taste of the destruction they caused.

This is great! Although I understand some hold back because of fears of retaliation, jobs, kids I think if there was more scorched earth it may make more people think

Um...let me see...this guy is guilty of harassing his grad students and your report may stop him. That sounds like exemplary behavior.

Yeah, it would be better if one of his students filed a complaint. So what? This is a start that could bring a complaint from out of the woodwork.

You sound pretty happy about doing this. Tsk, tsk, tsk.

The fact that you enjoyed outing the om doesn't change the fact that you did a public service.

I have a high regard for academe. This guy pollutes it, and deserves to be eliminated, just like a body eliminates solid waste.

Send everything you've got to everyone you can. How does your wife feel about her AP now?

I don't understand why he wouldn't get fired? He is guilty of sexual harrassment if he is having a relationship with someone over whom he has authority.

He poses a huge liability risk to the institution he works for because his employer will now have knowledge of his activities. They have to be seen to act.

I bet everyone in that department knows what is going on and it is simply ignored or indulged.

I think what you did is commendable. It sounds as if these married women were older. But what about younger girls, away from home, manipulated by low life's like these. It is sick, sick, sick. It sends a message to stay away from students and anyone in a position to be unduly influenced.

I love that word- predator.

I'm happy for you. I sincerely hope your MC understands that this was less about revenge and more about exposing someone for who they really are. If your W is upset...that is unacceptable.

High Five!

A bravo and kudos to you sir! FTG!!!

And though we cannot go back and change our past, you struck a blow for changing the futute for the next potential victim of the predatory POS!

2X4????

Please ,

You are officially my new her o!!!

Sweet !!! Rock on!!!! Hope he does loose his job and then some!!

Sweet!! Rock on!!

Thanks for sharing! Consequences would stop lots of this. I applaud you!! Please let us know what happens.

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Rock on Brother. You are my hero!

LOVE this. I would dearly love to scorch some earth for my fWH's OW, but doing that outs my fWH and destroys my reputation too. Oh, but living vicariously through this is almost as good!

ditto!

Jemimapd -as to not understanding how he wouldn't get fired, in an academic instution (I work at one as well, and we had a similar case within the past decade here), the whole concept of tenure can make things incredibly difficult...even when the tenured faculty member is completely in the wrong. In the case at my institution, they hired someone to head a department and offered him immediate tenure only to find out later that he had been chased out of not one, but two previous institutions for inappropriate relationships (and harassments and threats) with graduate students. It took years after they found out the information to get rid of him, and I think the way they had to do was to completely dissolve the department rather than firing him outright. It was horrible.

First off, I think what you did was just fine, as it's called "exposure of the A" and part of what keeps these things from lurking and growing like mildew in dark shadowy damp corners. You just exposed his actions for what they were, with proof.

As far as Universities - at my U it's not against the rules to have relationships with consenting adult students as long as they aren't currently in your class and you don't make decisions about their degree. However I've seen that rule be applied only in emergencies, since several professors have married their adult students and employees and if they kept it mutually respectful and low key, no one interfered. Having said that, if a married professor were having multiple relationships while acting as an unofficial mentor, that would be stepped on immediately. The cynical side of me believes that's mainly because it's a harassment lawsuit waiting to happen, more than as a protective measure.

In the OP's case I think this married predator is exactly the sort of person who takes advantage of both the sometimes lax system and his position to work like mildew in the darkness of everyone looking the other way. You took away his dark corner and now he'll have to deal with it.

His poor wife, though. Did you send her the pictures of him making out with someone as well? I hope she finds her way here. I don't judge you for sending her the evidence, I just feel sorry for what her marriage actually was.