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AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 1:40 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
He said he didn't actually think about divorce or leaving me until she ended the A. He said when he did finally think about it, it felt terrible. Maybe he should've thought about it before the A started.
When I asked him why he didn't talk to me when he realized he was having feelings for someone he said he forgot how to talk to me AND he wasn't ready to end his "friendship" with her. Ugh.
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
kourt090 ( member #34926) posted at 4:24 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
WH told me it was because he DIDN'T want to get divorced. He truly compartmentalized this to the max. He did not want our relationship to change, was scared to death about me finding out, but just couldn't help himself when it came to MOW. WH was verging on suicidal when I told him I wanted a divorce in the beginning.
badnewsbears ( new member #41254) posted at 5:47 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
i truly believe my WH had disconnected from me so far at that point that he began to feel as if the A wouldn't affect me or that I wouldnt see it as that big of a deal. I was completely devestated, did not see it coming at all. But then again he had been wanting to tell me he wanted to divorce for months, but was too cowardly to say anything....
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