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sinsof thefather ( member #29295) posted at 7:18 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
I don't know if he knows they were going to breakfast together in a group, or to group b-day lunches in the same car, etc.
OC, to the best of your knowledge has this now stopped? What does he do for breakfast and lunches now?
...second star to the right and straight on till morning.
OldCow18 (original poster member #39670) posted at 7:31 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
Yes, to the best of my knowledge. But I can't really know, right?
He generally emails me in the morning and says "going to the cafe for breakfast, alone" He tells me his lunch plans too and has vowed to not do group lunches anymore. I've spot checked him now and then during lunch, so far nothing to report, nothing to make me believe otherwise. The group lunches generally have an email trail, I've not seen anything like that since the last one.
Maybe it's the truth, I don't know.
Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 8:07 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
My X read on a site I was posting on for infidelity help, before i found SI. He posed as an innocent bystander and gave me advice. Basically he told me I was full of shit, and that I was wrong and needed to take my remorseful WS back...... Basically gave me, a hurting fragile BS a huge 2X4 
Problem is he is stupid as a box of rocks, and had just a wee bit too much info in his several posts to me. Since he thinks he is better than everyone, he never suspected he gave himself away. Only took a bit of sleuthing for me to prove it was him (and no I never told him I knew) That was the beginning of me seeing, really SEEING, how screwed-up he is/was.
Manipulative, selfish, broken people do crap like that. Just saying.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
heartache101 ( member #26465) posted at 8:39 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
(((OldCow)))
I look back and realize the 3 years I endured this was for my family. However I also would not go thru that ever again. I do not recommend anyone going thru this type of life it is no life to have period. Please tell me that he is looking for another job.
There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing
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