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 Lalagirl (original poster member #14576) posted at 6:38 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013

xOW sightings, while rare, do happen on occasion and I handle myself pretty well and it doesn't elicit the same heart-pounding, wanting to puke physical reaction that it did before.

About 8-9 months ago, OW for some odd reason, decided (I guess because she had some new boyfriend with her and felt ballsy, who knows?) to approach me in the parking lot of WalMart - with "hello stranger!" as if I would start chatting it up with her like we did when we were friends - you know, before she tried to take my H. She tried again inside the store...I walked away as if she never spoke to me. Yes, it felt good, but I could feel her smugness and it irritated the shit out of me.

Fast forward to this past Friday. I was in the ER with my DD and GD 11 mos. (GD is fine - just a bug). I am in the waiting room of the ER with my GS4 while they're checking his sister out; we decide to go for a walk. I look up to two women carrying boxes, one of whom is OW.

...I thought in a split second, "so help me if she tries to talk to me...I really would hate to give a verbal smackdown in front of GS...just ignore...walk away..." ...NOPE...as soon as she made eye contact with me, she put her head DOWN and kept walking! I actually saw ...I don't know...the only way I can describe it is shame and embarrassment. Maybe not, but she was a friend at one time and I was fairly good at reading her (I knew from jumpstreet when she started showing an interest outside of platonic friendship with FWH).

I normally do not relish in stuff like this, but I could not help but feel a little bit of joy from that. I'm sure many of you can relate.

[This message edited by Lalagirl at 12:39 PM, November 25th (Monday)]

2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant

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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 6:54 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013

Maybe it was a feeling of validation and vindication, Lalagirl. There is nothing wrong in relishing those feelings. She should be ashamed and embarrassed. That is what "normal' people feel when they have wronged someone else. Don't be so harsh with yourself. You didn't cause this, it is purely her own choice that she is feeling the consequence of.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 7:01 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013

You are a good person. That's all I'm saying. Had it been me, we'd be telling a different tale.

I normally do not relish in stuff like this, but I could not help but feel a little bit of joy from that. I'm sure many of you can relate

I sure can!

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014

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