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 littlefoggy (original poster member #41429) posted at 7:16 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013

So I have unfriended and detagged him. I detagged myself from every picture he had up.

Is it too much to remove every single picture of him ever from my facebook?

Stupid facebook. Ruining everyone's lives.

Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

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lisaloo ( member #20082) posted at 8:10 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013

STBXH and I are still married, and though I filed and he's counter filed, we're still FB "friends." I wish the jackass would just unfriend me already, but I'm not going to do it, because I'm playing nice for the courts...that being said, I removed every picture of him or with him in it (I'm talking like a hundred plus)...and untagged myself in any pic I had been tagged in with him...AND I made him restricted, so we're still "friends" but he can't see anything I post...so short answer, nope, it's not too much. Screw 'em.

Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house separation...fun, fun, fun.

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gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 8:49 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013

Facebook is so toxic. If it wasn't my main connection to good friends who don't live locally, I would quit it altogether.

Do whatever feels right. I unfriended, untagged, took down photos etc immediately. Also, if your X is still involved with OW, I recommend blocking asap. Otherwise you run the risk of seeing devastatingly hurtful things, like I did.

((littlefoggy))

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords

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Pass ( member #38122) posted at 9:04 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013

Do it. I unfriended, removed all pictures, and blocked The Princess. FB assumed that there must be some harassment for me to block, so they posted a message to me saying, "Sorry you had to experience this."

I believe that is the only apology I will ever receive.

[This message edited by pass at 12:12 AM, December 20th (Friday)]

Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.

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 littlefoggy (original poster member #41429) posted at 9:15 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013

I unfriended about a week after dday. He wouldn't NC her. In particular he wouldn't unfriend her on FB. I did it to show him how easy it is.

I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't even notice I did it.

Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 9:19 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013

OTOH, FB is how I found out (via alert cousins since I'd already unfriended him) he was traveling to see OW and spending money, which is how I knew I needed to comb through his bank statements, and is how I was able to prove he was giving up visitation time to be with her and spending money on her when our kids were needing new shoes. Good stuff for the lawyer right there!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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pregnantandsad ( member #40141) posted at 9:22 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013

Do it. I unfriended him and blocked him, blocked OW and unfriended all of his friends and family. I don't have anything against most of his friends and family, but I don't want my info getting to him and vice-versa. I don't want to see anything about him pop up when I am on FB. I also removed all pictures of him and I unfriended anyone I am not really close with. I don't need a bunch of old classmates and co-workers gossiping about my personal issues. Maybe I went a bit overboard, but it makes me feel better to not have to worry about any of that anymore.

M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD5 & DD 1 1/2
D-Day 7/2013 - Divorced!

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 9:29 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013

Is it too much to remove every single picture of him ever from my facebook?

No, honey - it's not too much. You do whatever feels right for you.

I untagged, blocked, and removed all the pictures that had him in them. Don't worry about what's right or wrong - do what's best for your well being.

((((littlefoggy))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Artemisia ( member #40564) posted at 1:35 AM on Friday, December 20th, 2013

I believe that is the only apology I will ever receive.

Pass - too, too funny.

littlefoggy - yes. Facebook is a terrible place to be during terrible times. I deactivated my account altogether, and I recommend it to anyone who can go without. Forget that crap.

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PurpleBirch ( member #39170) posted at 4:02 AM on Friday, December 20th, 2013

WH never wanted to be fb friends. He hates fb, and only made an account last year to participate in a gaming forum fb group. When he mentioned (not the first time) about some of my fb stuff that he didn't like (the cheater being paranoid), I told him, just be my friend and you'll see all my stuff! He declined, which made me wonder if I should be suspicious about HIS fb... Anyway.

I didn't remove all the pictures of us together, but I did make it so that only I can see them.

Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner

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Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 4:11 AM on Friday, December 20th, 2013

Facebook is toxic and horrible. If I liked most of those people in high school then I would have remained friends. If not I do not really care. Just my opinion. It allows you to escape reality into fantasy. Maybe even rekindle with and old flame after having a fight with your spouse????? F--k Facebook. I won't ever go on again. I have a business one but nothing else.

"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"

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