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cantaccept (original poster member #37451) posted at 11:35 AM on Sunday, December 22nd, 2013
I think it turned out the only way it could if I am to ever have a chance to get what I want.
I sure was never going to get it with him! 
I think it probably feels like when someone gets scammed for money. He scammed me for my heart. Well come to think of it, probably money too! He does not have the best work record.
What the hell did I see in him??? 
The truth is a wonderful thing. It is empowering.
Can
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
ILINIA ( member #39836) posted at 3:10 PM on Sunday, December 22nd, 2013
Just reading your recent posts makes me happy for you. Yes, it is a hard time, but you have such a feeling a freedom and lightness to you like that weight is finally gone and you can now fly!
I'm always touched when a member of the SI family hits a wall or bump and thinks of us and shares their wisdom and thoughts during some of the hardest moments of their lives. We are a family, a little dysfunctional but family!
Your MIL was right, you deserve to be loved to pieces!
katmandude54 ( member #35992) posted at 3:18 PM on Sunday, December 22nd, 2013
Unless the in-laws have been through it, or unless they are exceptional people, they have no path but to support their kid, no matter what he/she did. Like your in-laws, Can, they are also in the throes of a OW/BS situation, so mil knows what is going on and can be supportive of her DIL.
My MIL, thou she was not affected by an affair, does have a very emotionally distant hub, whom might have had an affair, don't know. But she's been somewhat supportive of me and has said things to her daughter about the affairs, not that it has helped. That only served to push them apart some, since MIL told me things. Go figure.
[This message edited by katmandude54 at 9:19 AM, December 22nd (Sunday)]
If at first you don't succeed, you're probably screwed.
StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 3:34 PM on Sunday, December 22nd, 2013
Can, you are so strong and I am so glad to "hear" the fight in your "voice"! I KNOW you are going to be fine. Better than fine. You are going to flourish in your new future. It is going to be so much more rewarding and enjoyable when you can finally direct your energy and attention to more worthwhile "causes". I'm actually getting excited for you. (I know it will still be a painful path but you will overcome!!!!)
I hope you have a peaceful Christmas !
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
cantaccept (original poster member #37451) posted at 11:34 PM on Sunday, December 29th, 2013
she was a liar too. I met her. wh did work at her house I was there. met her and he boyfiend.
I figured it out tonight.
They ar all liars.
Why? why? I feel so crushed again for nothing. he destreoyed me for nothing.
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
PinkJeepLady ( member #37575) posted at 12:09 AM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
Seriously???? Another crazy turn for sure!
Wow, she sure is a good liar, what gets me is how fast they can come up with this crap. I mean really, it just flows right out of their mouths.
Exactly, WHY??? We will never know can, we just will never know.
I am so sorry you are still dealing with craziness. It is so hard, liars seem to run in packs don't they?
Geez, from your first post about OW I thought she sounded like someone who might be somewhat ok, like she had been lied to and didn't know about you. uh huh, not so.
Hang in there! Huge hugs to you tonight!
Take care
Me: BW Him: FWH
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas
Reconciled - thought so, but now divorcing
MakingLemonade ( member #41143) posted at 3:48 AM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
((((Can)))),
Because OPs are just as broken as WSs-deceitful, self absorbed, fantasy driven crazies.
We are dumbfounded because we are not that. We are decent and respectful people who live in reality. (That's why I love SI!)
You are on the beginning of the ride I started nine months ago. Your pain is still fresh for me. Know that I am cheering for you!
ML
Me: 40's; XBS Him: 40's; XWS/NPD/SA
D-day 1: 5/2007- A #1; 7/2007 A #1 continued-R
D-day 2: 3/2013 A #2/multi-ONSs; 4/2013 A #2 continues to present
D: 7/2013 (25 yrs together; days shy of 22nd anniversary-GOAL MET!)
Our kids: teen & tween
jb3199 ( member #27673) posted at 7:58 AM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
I figured it out tonight.
They ar all liars.
And THAT is why you are distancing yourself from them. They deserve one another.
(((cantaccept)))
BH-50s
WW-50s
2 boys
Married over 30yrs.
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary PuckettD-Day(s): EnoughAccepting that I can/may end this marriage 7/2/14
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