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I have been thinking about you today. I'm sorry that you've had to deal with all of this. I know today can't be easy. I hope you are doing okay.

Hi Everyone.

It's been a couple months since my last post and I know many of you are still really struggling. I wanted to post today to maybe give you all some hope that you can come out of this Hell.

For those that have followed my story I wanted to let you know that I am REALLY HAPPY!!! Honestly, have not been this happy in years.

I feel like I have found ME again and I realize now looking back how my WH picked me apart for years.

I think I even posted once how he told me that one of our good friends had supposedly told him "well, who does she think she is going to get?, Look at her." That comment stuck in the back of my head for 7 years.

I ran into that friend a few weeks ago and flat out asked him... his reply... "I swear I never said that and I know I never would because I always thought you were gorgeous." Can't believe I believed that for so long. He really did kill my self esteem over the years.

I have been dating a little and that is weird but fun. Dating in your 20s, guys had no money to take you on real dates. Dating in your 40s... much better : ) Nice dinners, concerts and actual chemistry.

Kids are doing great too. I really do think they see how you react and act accordingly. If you yell and scream or cry all day they are going to internalize. Show them you're happy and they will be happier because of it.

XH and I get along fine for the kids. Try to limit communication to texting, seems to do best but we are very amicable in regards to switching dates with kids etc.

Only real struggle I guess I have is the XBF. I ran into her at the gym the other day. I was so angry that she did not leave when she knew I was there. The lack of respect for my space and lack of remorse just kills me. It's a really small gym with a giant chalkboard for inspirational quotes. I walked over and wrote in huge letter "EVERYONE KNOWS YOU SUCKED MY HUSBAND'S COCK" and walked out. I know it wasn't very mature but I felt better.

I texted her later for the first time since everything happened and asked her to please find another gym. Told her it was the least she could do. We'll see what happens there.

Found out that XBF and her husband are renewing their wedding vows... how sweet. I've thought about sending them a bottle of Menage a Trois.

I want to thank you all again for helping me through my hell and I hope you all have peace and happiness in your lives too.

Just remember, life is too short to wallow in despair. I have watched too many good friends waste years of their lives. If we only get one life try to live it! Honestly your X is not worth it! Much love my friends!

[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 5:07 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]

BLIND!!! Excited to see you doing so well!! Fantastic news!

"EVERYONE KNOWS YOU SUCKED MY HUSBAND'S COCK"

OMG!!! That's awesome! Your confidence and attitude has come so far! Love it! Where;s the head explode emoticon from too much laughter.

Send the bottle of Menage a Trois. Least you cold do.

Great to see you out and about.

yop

Good to get such a positive kick ass update!!!! You totally rock , blind. Good for you!!!! You should be on the SI poster with your bitch boots on--- taking no prisoners. I love it!

Glad life is better for you. Keep going. You are an inspiration!

I've thought about sending them a bottle of Menage a Trois.

OMG. ^^^^^this!!!!! Please please please do it.

Oh honey, do happy to hear all is well. You rock. Do me a favor and read baseball mom's post. Show her you can survive the shit storm and come out ahead.

(((And happiness)))) (cause you don't need strength)

Did a mud run in my wedding dress I just had to share with all of you.

Yes, that is my original wedding dress. Was a blast and threw it in the trash when I was done. Truly freeing.

Just wanted to check in and tell you all that a little over 8 months later I am SUPER happy!

Kids are doing great too.

Couldn't have gotten this far without your support. Wishing you all happiness.

You muddy Goddess, you!

That is a truly uplifting update. May take a page out of your book and take my wedding dress for a run!

Thank you sharing and glad you are all doing ok!

iamsoblind (though you should change it to "iamsoawesome" - your story was the first one I read here. It was jaw dropping to say the least. Your update and pic of you in your old muddy wedding dress is pure awesome. I'm totally proud of you!!!

BLIND!!!!! You look fantastic in that dress! Love it!!!

Glad to see you and the kids are doing so well. Truly brings a big ol tear to my eye. Couldn't be happier for you.

You my friend are an inspiration!

yop

"EVERYONE KNOWS YOU SUCKED MY HUSBAND'S COCK"

Dang !

I AM SOOOO PROUD OF YOU ! You HAVE come a long way, Baby ! Have been wondering about you and now know you are doing just fine. And, the mud run in the wedding dress? The BEST ! You're a doll and don't believe anyone who says otherwise.

Glad to know your kiddos are doing well, also. You are proof positive that good things can come from the shit storm cheater spouses bring to their families. You are the epitome of SURVIVING INFIDELITY. YAY FOR YOU !

Wish there was a like button for the comments on here. Thanks again!

BTW... I did send the wine

Wow! You have inspired me. I moved and my wedding dress somehow traveled with me. What do I do with it? I cannot just throw it in the trash. No, I can do a mud run!

Never too old to learn.

I might even place first which is something for an old timer.

You rock!

Awesome!

LOL, you are amazing.

You are my hero. So happy for your happiness!

You're awesome and really inspiring.

I always thought that you had this amazing strength, right from the beginning, you had a list, you went down that list, and didn't stop and until you were done. Perhaps your financial situation also helped knowing you would be ok without him, but regardless, it wash your Strength that got you through that. Really inspiring.

Wish you the best, and enjoy dating!

Congrats. You are Amazing.

I wish you much happiness. That is a great use of that old thing. Looks too big on you too.

Stay strong, stay happy.

BTW... I did send the wine

I really wish I could have been a fly on the wall when they opened that. Menage a Trois!! What a way t kick off their new vows. OMG too funny!!

Wow, blind, you are my hero!!!! I just love your spirit and strength!!! So glad you are doing so well. Thanks for checking in to be an inspiration for all of us!

That wedding dress had to be SO HEAVY with all the mud! But I guess it's just another symbol of some dead weight you carried and finally got rid of!!!! That's just awesome. Truly.

It's good to hear that the kiddos are doing well and that you and XPOS can co-parent amicably. That's the best you can do for your kids.

Way to go!!!!!