Well, Today I decided that I would go to my daughters basketball game. I haven't been going because he is always there and I just like to avoid him at all costs, even if I have to miss the games. He even started assistant coaching the team…which is a joke because he never ever would have done that kind of thing before saying he was way to busy with work and such. Now he is super dad right?
Anyway, at the game our other child DD8 (who was picked up by him after school yesterday) was there and she immediately ran up to me and was all over me, hugging me, telling me how she wanted to come home with me and didn;t want to stay with Daddy anymore.
She was upset and said, "Can you ask him if I can go home. To my real home." then "Can I ask him if I can come home with you" and I said "Honey, it is your weekend with Daddy, and I am sure he wants to spend time with you. DD10 will be there tonight too, I am sure it will be fun." I tried to change the subject, etc, talked to other parents a bit. Then she runs away and goes and asks him if she can go home with me. He says no, it is his weekend.
During the whole game she sat on my lap and hugged me so tight it was so uncomfortable. She was acting like a 4 year old vs an 8 year old. The whole time whining and complaining that she didn't want to go with Daddy. She doesn;t like it over there. It is not fair. It is boring. Etc and so on.
Then after the game and the snacks and all the other parents are leaving, she will not leave me. I tell her I am going to leave and she needs to go with her sister and Daddy. No, she buried her face in my shoulder and refused.
He comes up to us and says, " I'll be out at the car" and instead of keeping me mouth shut and telling my DD for the 100th time to just go on with Daddy now….I said "No, YOU need to deal with this, this is not my problem" and he is like "okay, come on DD, we need to go" She says "No, I am not going" WTF am I supposed to do?? I was so mad seeing what he has done to our kids and the position he has put us in. I said "Well, are you happy? Isn't this what you wanted? Separate relationships with the kids?" and he is shushing me and I walked out with them and walked next to my older DD and he carried the younger one out crying. Then I had to get in my car and drive away while she was still crying about wanting to be with me and come back home with me.
I felt so bad. Bad for her to have to deal with this. Bad for myself because I didn't want my family split up either. I shouldn't have even gone to the game. I guess I will have to concede basketball to him too. I hated seeing her cry. I hated that I couldn't keep my trap shut and had to say something to him in front of the kids. He wants to act like it is all FINE and it is not FINE and so be it if they saw me mad at him, is it wrong to want to address it head on with honesty instead of pretending in front of them that this SHIT is normal??? I didn't know what to do, but I feel like i F**Ked up.
Someone bitch slap me for that one.