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happierdays (original poster member #38537) posted at 6:16 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
I've been feeling off for a couple of weeks and finally figured out it's because I'm pregnant! I still can't believe it and I'm also still not entirely sure how I feel about it, though vulnerable comes to mind. I never thought we'd be here again and I'm a bit scared (and 39!)
Me - 40 something
WH - 40 something
Dday - Oct 7, 2012
Dday 2 - June 4, 2013
Married - 12 years
2 DD
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 6:23 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
Nice to hear some good news!
Congratulations! (And your feelings are totally normal!)
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 6:26 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
Normal feelings for sure.
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Slayer ( new member #42138) posted at 6:40 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
Congratulations! That is exciting news. Good luck to you and your pregnancy
happierdays (original poster member #38537) posted at 8:11 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
Thank you! I'm still having mixed feelings, our DD is 8, so there will be quite an age gap and I've been struggling with feelings of insecurity, but will get there.
Me - 40 something
WH - 40 something
Dday - Oct 7, 2012
Dday 2 - June 4, 2013
Married - 12 years
2 DD
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 8:16 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
Congratulations!
Babies are just pure joy.
Ohhhh and their smell mmmmm.
I always wanted another one. It is such a great time.
Enjoy!!
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 8:24 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
Welcome to the "elderly multigravida" club. 
Yeah, I was shocked when I overheard my OB dictating notes about me after our first visit. And, yes you are a member of the club. Congratulations!
My two older children were 16 and 10 when I found myself pregnant at age 40. I will tell you having a child later in life is such a different experience. I was so much more relaxed and we didn't "sweat the small stuff". It really helped that he was the most perfect and best baby , evah!
Its an adventure, hope on board and enjoy! (I finally did, after I went to therapy!)
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
AndreaL ( member #41522) posted at 9:27 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
Congrats!! Have you told your husband yet?
Me:35
Hubby:38
Kids ages: 2 and 5
Married: 8 years
DDAY: Dec 1 2013
Affair: 2 months EA and PA
Status: Separted. Sigh...I wish I could forgive 😞
Update: attempting to reconcile
SadFlower ( member #37725) posted at 9:55 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2014
Congratulations! A new little life--what could be better?
And don't worry about your age! You'll be fine. My mom had me when she was 42 and Dad was 50; my sisters were 14 and 18. Mother always said the same thing as SisterMilkshake, that she was so much more relaxed with me than my sisters. And they were great parents.
My sisters and I have always been close, and I'm sure your son and the new baby will be too--8 years is not such a terrible gap.
Me: BW, age 71
Him: WH, age 70
Married 24 years
In R.
D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA
happierdays (original poster member #38537) posted at 12:43 AM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
Thank you for so many votes of confidence! It warms my heart to read your stories.
Me - 40 something
WH - 40 something
Dday - Oct 7, 2012
Dday 2 - June 4, 2013
Married - 12 years
2 DD
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 1:00 AM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
Congrats! I had my second at the same age. He is our wild one. 
Patience might be thin but wisdom rules!
All the best to you.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Getting to Happy ( member #35200) posted at 3:21 AM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
Congrats!!! Babies are little gifts of joy from heaven!
(((((happierdays and baby on the way))))) 
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown
0115 ( member #31740) posted at 3:46 AM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
I had my little surprise at 42. My other children were 21, 17, 16, and 14 (quite a gap).
He is now a proud Uncle to my oldest sons daughter and he is a constant joy in our lives! He helps me see the beauty in the little things all over again.
Good luck and all those emotions are normal. I remember crying when I went to Babies R Us because there were too many car seat and I was so confused! When you hold that little one it will all feel right!
BS (me) 49
FWH 49 newbeg2011
Married 29 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 1:54 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2014
Congratulations!! Babies bring out the best in our hearts. Enjoy and take care!! So, so happy for you!!
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
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