I am not offended. I understand I am looking at all this through my BLUE Sunglasses on.
With this Generalization, for Recovery/Reconciliation purposes, does that mean I need to be more patient, probably...and concentrate more on 180 to help me heal. I need
I don't think it's an excused, but men and women are both wired differently and see things differently.
There is no excuse for anything, but what I am saying is, R is much harder due to these differences if you want your WS back.
This is not about CRUELTY. The fact, that even did this to us is cruel enough, and they left us here to figure out things on our own instead of picking up the pieces speaks about their character in such a high volume.
We can be CRUEL BS's and not give them a chance to come back if we wanted to or make their life a living hell, desiring vengeance.
And Ladies, I am not discounting your pain. I know it must feel like a living hell, not knowing your WH, is telling the truth, if the affair has gone underground, when's the next bunch of trickle truth going to come. I know finding out all the information you possibly have at this point doesn't help.
I am not jealous of pain, I am jealous of those who WS was remorseful and actually wanted to comeback. Who wanted to work on it and fix it. That's what I am jealous of but I feel hurt for everyone on here who had to experience this pain, male and female.
I can understand and relate to both. We are all being fed bull crap out of the wazoo.
I am sure everyone feels the same from a personal view but from a whole. I wish their was a poll to show how long it took for each to come out of the fog or how long it took remorse. Do a comparison.
Not sure how it's offensive, but the reality is every story is different...
I know it's pointless to view it as gender base but it's hard not to read, the JFO stories, the General stories and the recovery stories, and the I Can Relate. You read those and you think man, it seems so easy to get from the most destructive force in nature, to the greatest marriage on earth but it takes work. The process from getting from one to the other is not short.
Heck, right now I feel like I am talking out of my head. Having got a good nights sleep for a while because working late hours...
Sorry if I offended anyone...