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You are an incredibly strong young woman. You can do this.

Fuck. That. Guy.

What an worthless asshole.

You stay strong for yourself and those babies.

Sending you hugs and strength.

PPGA

I am trying so hard to be strong, but he keeps hitting me with one blow after the other. I am making and appointment with the Gino tomorrow to make sure he didn't give me anything. Because apparently he isn't just having an affair he's also sleeping around and having one night stands. Oh my gosh they will have to hide my fucking gun if I have something.

My kids are my rock right now. My 3 year old son caught me hiding to cry and he said "what's wrong mama?" and I said "My heart is broken" and he gave me a long hug and a kiss and said "I will fix it for you mama." And yes I believe he and his sister will. But I've gotta help heal their hearts too. He hasn't called or texted in 2 and a half days. Not even to talk to them. But if he wants to leave for good it will 100% be his fault. There is not the slightest chance it will ever work for us but he still has these babies.

I hear you mumof2....

He will call/text... No doubt being very apologetic......be prepared, be strong xx

Talk to the utilities companies, explain the situation. You may find they have payment plans available or as distance for financial hardship so as not to disadvantage you and the kidlets

[This message edited by Sadmumma at 8:17 AM, February 10th (Monday)]

Its just so hard and he is acting more like it is a relief to get it out and doesn't give the slightest fuck that he hurt me. Hes acting like I deserved it and it is my fault it happened. I feel like I've tried too hard to make it work. And he has done nothing but has been pushing me away. Looking back on the past year there were so many red flags I didn't notice because I trusted him..he wouldn't even hug me back unless I made him when he came home and the only time he was nice to me was when he wanted to have sex. Also he wouldn't come home if I was on my time of the month either. I just hate him so much right now.

Does anyone know how to calculate child support? My soon to be ex husband makes about $57, 000 a year. I have been a stay at home mom the whole time we have been married. We have 2 children and we live in the state of Oklahoma.

Have you seen a lawyer? I think consults are free and they must know how to estimate child care. Look around for a good family law attorney and figure out what the future terrain will look like financially.

I'm so sorry he has treated you in this way. His acting like you deserve this is just proof of how much better you deserve.

Here's hoping you gets lots of hugs and sweetness from your kids today!

Momof2

You must see an attorney ASAP and protect yourself and your children legally and financially!

I've called a few attorneys and each has told me they will call back and then don't...

Call your local court house. Many have advocates who can help folks who can't afford an attorney. If you go into the court to pick up the paperwork, ask the clerk what forms you need and find out whether there is someone there who can help you calculate support. You need income and living expenses to fill out the child support forms.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, but I really admire your strength and resolve. Your babies are lucky to have you mama!

Oh. My. Gosh. I just found out he is has been seeing her for over a year she has a child (not confirmed yet if it is his) and has been living an actual life up there with her. What the fuck?

I'm so sorry!

Because this baby could be his, you need to see a lawyer as soon as possible or go straight to the courthouse and file for child support.

Hang in there, you are strong you can do this.

I am living in kind of a parallel universe. Husband has no remorse, won't give his address, abandoned his family, but seemingly wants to be superdad once in a while when he wants to see our teenager.

Tomorrow is Presidents Day. That means your local courts are closed. That also means the attorneys are sitting there waiting for new clients to call. CALL THEM TOMORROW. If no one calls you back by afternoon go to someone's office and just sit til they see you.

My husband promised he would not take money, would not do anything to hurt family, just wanted to be with his whore. I am a paralegal and I knew better! I moved money into my own account, changed locks, lots of stuff. Like I'm going to trust him to do the right thing? Not. Yes you and I are heartbroken. But there are certain things you will find the resolve to do, and these are the ones. Looking forward to hearing what you find out with attorneys tomorrow. Hugs to you tonight! We are here giving you all one big group hug kiddo.

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Update: So it's been a little over a month since my husband called and told me about the affair. He and his girlfriend have been posting pictures together kissing and everything else talking about how happy they are together on their Facebook pages. It hurts. And I wonder how long it will take to stop hurting. He still hasn't called or asked to see the kids. I have talked to him a handful of times about getting some money from him to help with the kids. Je called about 3 weeks ago to tell me how much he hated me. I don't understand any of it. I feel like I am in a bad dream and at any minute I will wake up. I am having a really hard time even looking at other men. It hasn't crossed my mind in the whole 7 years of our marriage and I wonder how long that will wear off. I've been asked on a few dates but only went on one, yesterday for lunch actually. It was good conversation and everything but I kept thinking about my husband. How do I get over him? He broke me so much I don't know if I will ever be able to be that person for someone else. He had my whole heart.

mama you have to heal yourself---see a lawyer before you and the kids get screwed,,,this man has been cheating on you for a long time,,,LET HIM GO....he is not the same man you used to know....he is feeling really good about stepping all over you and hurting you....collect yourself and establish NC and 180----do not allow yourself to be abused,,let it go,let him go....he left this marriage a long time ago....see a doctor please for std testing....marriages end,it is difficult but he does not even want his kids...he wants out let him fly,,,,do not talk to him or text him,he does not care about the kids so ,no contact,stop the abuse you deserve better ,,,not this,,,,take care of yourself

Oh. My. Gosh. I just found out he is has been seeing her for over a year she has a child (not confirmed yet if it is his) and has been living an actual life up there with her. What the fuck?

Does the OW know that he is married with kids? If he has been leading a 'double life' and keeping you from knowing about her then it's quite possible that he's been doing the same with her.