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Girl, STOP it. You have me at working crying like a baby!

Damn I'm so glad your little one is safe.

I did a stint with law enforcement. The WORST cases were when we had to tell the parents their kid really was missing....or worse, the body was found.

Uhhhhggg. I cried every single time we had one of those cases. Not in front of the parents, but later in the car writing the report. My partner told me I was too soft for those kind of calls.

Hug your baby for me too....even though I don't know her!

OMG I was SO freaked the FUCK out just reading that so I can only imagine how it was living it! I'm so neurotic that my heart jumped when I got an amber alert to my phone yesterday and had to check on DS with the nanny!

That is SUPER scary. I'm glad DD and sadclown both got a fright. Hopefully they will both be more careful and responsible. Also WTF to BFF's mom and the school!!!

(((SBB)))

Oh god. This is my worst fear.

Worst. Fear.

I'm so glad that she's okay.

And don't beat yourself up too much over your reaction when you saw her. She needs to see that. She needs to put that together with how you feel and care about her.

And also, I was wondering what sparkysable was wondering.

(((((SBB)))))

The mum calls me and says no - she's not there. Her DD hasn't been to school today because she's sick.

Sorry, that was the weird mum of her second friend. She was with her her BFF's babysitter. BFF goes to ASC once a week and is picked up by a babysitter the rest of the week.

I did end up sleeping. I hadn't thought of it but you are all right - it was appropriate for DD6 to see how much she scared me. All I kept thinking when I was giving the babysitter a serve was "don't swear in front of the kids" and "don't punch the old lady".

I do wish the girls were with me though. It was surreal handing them over after such an ordeal. In some ways it was a good thing because I did need some time to fall apart. DD6 was calm and happy at the goodnight call a few hours later.

I never want to go through that again.

(((Hugs)))

I'm so sorry that happened.

I've gotten that phone call. Mine was missing for a few hours. I only knew about it for about 1.5 of it. It didn't turn out well. They finally found my DD16 lying on a bathroom floor at school after locating her and tracking her on the security footage. She had overdosed at school. (She is still with us! Thank God.)

I'm thankful yours is safe and sound.

That is absolutely terrifying.

I can totally relate. I similarly had my son go missing when he was six for about 30 or 45 minutes. He was at a birthday party at a small local amusement park. The birthday boy's mother had said she would take over watch of him while I picked up my younger daughter from a friends. She insisted so that he could stay longer because I was going to take him with me. When I got back with his younger sister, the mother was gone and did not have my son with her! It took me 30 to 45 minutes of scouring the park to find him with another child from the party who playing mini golf with that child's parents. I was freaking out and getting irate with the stupid teenagers who were in charge of the park who did not seem to understand that they needed to shut down the entrances and exits and get every available person looking. Anyway, I know I freaked him out when I broke down sobbing when I found him. I've never been so terrified or felt so much helplessness panic and dread in my entire life.

Not meaning to thread jack here but did want you to know that I totally get how you felt while trying to locate her. I'm so glad your daughter was similarly found safe.

I keep thinking about this and wonder why, in this day and age, the babysitter didn't text you right away that she had your child when this is not the normal course of events. And why on earth would she trust a six year old with changes to the plan?.

Now I'm getting mad on your behalf.

I did a stint with law enforcement. The WORST cases were when we had to tell the parents their kid really was missing....or worse, the body was found.

Oh man. I couldn't handle that. It really is a vocation. Bless you, bless them all.

I tell you what I've always loved cops but I could have hugged and kissed them for how kind and empathetic they were yesterday.

I was apologising for freaking out and not making sense and not telling them immediately that I knew she was safe - one of them told me he had 3 little girls and he completely understood. They stayed until I had an address.

I'm sure they see this all the time but I'm glad they didn't make me feel like I had wasted their time or that I had freaked out for no reason. They seem relieved right along with me.

I'm going to write them a thank you letter.

I do feel a bit funny about going back to ASC. I'm not one to fall on the floor screaming my lungs out, usually. I hate to think of the terrible things I would have said had I not got the call that she was safe as soon as I got there. I was ready to knock down doors and demand to go into people's houses looking for her.

Hugs to everyone who has been through this. My girls aren't runners but I've lost sight of them for a minute or two before and it was that feeling but turbo charged the longer it went.

@ nekorb, That just gave me chills. I am so glad your DD is OK.

I keep thinking about this and wonder why, in this day and age, the babysitter didn't text you right away that she had your child when this is not the normal course of events. And why on earth would she trust a six year old with changes to the plan?.

OMG, me too!! BFFs Mum said the same thing - why didn't she call her to tell her she had someone else's child too. When I was ranting at her I asked how on earth she thought it was OK to take someone's child without permission or INFORMING anyone. Stupid, stupid woman. Maybe this happened all the time when she had kids but the world has changed. She doesn't even know me.

I'm also kind of mad at BFFs mum for not calling her right after speaking to me the first time. It was only when I called her a second time and asked her to ask her DD if she saw who DD6 went with that she mentioned a babysitter. Our girls are joined at the hip so I hoped her DD might know something.

If someone called me saying their child was missing I'd call my mum, the sad clown and anyone else who went to the school just to check and to inform them so they could call around.

I told DD6 that unless she had permission from me or her dad she had basically gone home with a stranger. She KNOWS she isn't to do that.