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hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 1:25 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
I'm bringing dinner for a girlfriend's family tonight. She just had reconstructive surgery (Double mastectomy a month ago). Last time, I went to a local "whole-foods like" supermarket and got a couple of rotisserie chickens and some sides. I can't hit the market today because of a festival. I don't keep a lot of food around the house because I'm single and I get two meals a day at work (and some left overs I sneak away). So I don't have a lot of casserole friendly fare in large enough quantities to feed a family of six. I also don't have time to run to the grocery store and purchase/make said items.
So, I was thinking - XL veggie pizza from my local pizzeria? Would that be okay? It's her (although she probably won't eat), husband, three kids (ages 6-14), and possibly in-laws. So, gourmet pizza? THat's not hugely slackery is it?
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karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 2:01 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
I think it's thoughtful. I can barely manage making dinner for 1 family ...never mind adding an unexpected meal 
If there are three kids, a husband AND a set of in-laws I might consider 2 pizzas. I usually do a speciality and a cheese, for the picky ones.
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Lucky2HaveMe ( member #13333) posted at 2:03 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
OMG! NO! It is not slackerish! They will be appreciative of anything so long as they don't have to 1) figure out WHAT to have 2) shop for ingredients and 3) cook it!
So give the pizza and let them enjoy it. 
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Rainbows ( member #39362) posted at 2:05 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
It's not slackery at all, pizza is always a good choice.
I would also suggest adding a chopped salad and maybe some ice cream for the kids for dessert.
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ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 2:05 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
It's not slackery by any means - it's incredibly thoughtful - but, pizza is a personal food item based on preferences and diet restrictions.
I also agree with that many people to get 2 and perhaps the fixings for a nice salad.
I would let her know your plans and ask what they'd like on them. You never know - one of them may have to eat a gluten free diet or have other allergies.
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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 3:02 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
Yes, that would be fine. You could also do take out from a restaurant too.
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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 3:02 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
Yes, that would be fine. You could also do take out from a restaurant too.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 3:49 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
Not slackery at all, but if the kids are not vegans, or big on veggies, you may want to get a cheese pizza, and a veggie one to be sure they eat.
I'm sure they will appreciate any assistance they can get.
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Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 7:02 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2014
I would just call and say, thought I would bring you pizza tonight, what do you want on it?
I would like that any night.
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still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 12:16 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014
You are probably the opposite of "slackering" (is that a word?? 
)
You are a very sweet, kind and considerate friend.
I am sure, with all they have going on, that just about anything will be welcome.
Don't forget dessert! (but that's just me and my sweet tooth talking)
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hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 1:45 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014
Thanks guys for all the input. They actually reopened the market today, so I picked her up a couple of rotisserie chickens and two large sides (veggies and Orzo). I dropped it off with her babysitter. My friend had surgery today so I couldn't call her to ask about what they would like - but i let her know last week I was bringing food by.
She had a double mastectomy (preventative as she has BARCA, her mom & sis both had breast cancer). Today was her reconstruction. I just want to help out where I can even if it's small (like dinner).
Plus, I'm Southern. Bringing sick people food is like our heroin.
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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 5:51 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014
Plus, I'm Southern. Bringing sick people food is like our heroin
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BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 6:44 AM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2014
You're a great friend! Love the 'Southern' comment!
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