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Divorce/Separation :
DD is so stinkin' sweet

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 newlysingle (original poster member #38735) posted at 4:59 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

At bedtime tonight, DD asked me if I thought I'd get re-married. I said that I didn't know, but it might happen in the future if I met the right person. She then asked if I would marry dad again. I said no,that dad didn't treat me well, broke promises and really hurt my feelings. I said that if I got re-married I would want someone kind, honest, treated me well, etc.

She then said, I really hope you find someone like that, mommy.

I almost teared up. We always have to walk that fine line of being truthful, but not badmouthing the other parent. I'm really hoping that I didn't badmouth him, but I couldn't not tell her why I wouldn't marry him again. I always tell her that he loves her though and just made bad choices in his marriage.

BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 5:11 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

Poor sweetheart. There's such kindness in her. Good job, mama.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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Darcy3 ( member #39696) posted at 5:19 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

I think you handled it very well.

Me = BS
Him = WS
3 teenagers
Married 24 years
D-Day: Nov. 10, 2012
Divorced

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BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 5:24 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

You told her the truth, age appropriately....well done! ((Newlysingle&dd)))

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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Pass ( member #38122) posted at 3:25 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

You handled it well. And yes, so stinkin' sweet!

My boys have asked me on several occasions if they can DJ my next wedding. I think that may be the 10 and 13-year-old equivalent of this conversation.

Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.

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