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Divorce/Separation :
Today is the day!

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 WeepingBuddhist (original poster member #39139) posted at 1:30 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

This afternoon is the final hearing for the dissolution (or disillusion as some of my friends who have been through the process call is; they're cards, I tell you). STBX and I will travel there together--yeah, it's like that for us. Lawyer yesterday said it shouldn't take more than 30 minutes, if that. I am certain this is what I want, but it is astounding to me how totally sad I am. We had a great relationship for 17 years (together for 20). The past 18 months have been horrible but also amazing. Every decision I have made since deciding to leave has been supported by friends, work, and out-of-the-blue turns of events at which I would roll my eyes if that shit happened in a Hallmark movie. Anyway, I'd like as many good vibes as possible today. Just because it's right doesn't mean it's not going to suck.

Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:50 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

Sending you everything I've got, honey. ((((WB))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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mamazen ( member #42137) posted at 1:55 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

I totally get you.

Will be with you in spirit today.

Give us an update when it's done....

mamazen


me 57
WH 58
married 19 years
separated since 3/2013 (in house until 8/2013)
D FINAL! Sept 10 2014
D-day Dec 21 2013 (after separation)
2 sons 17 and 13
OW = family friend and WH work colleague, going on m

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iamsoblind42 ( member #42022) posted at 2:18 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

I am so jealous! I still have 2 months. I will have been M for just over 18 years when it is final and I am sure I will be sad over the loss of what could have been but I will surely not mourn what it actually was. I have a bottle of champagne chilling waiting for April 21st.

I wish you much strength and that there is no drama in the courtroom today. Sending good vibes and I hope it does not suck too bad.

I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, keep on surviving...

BS: me 44 (then 42)
WH: 50 (then 48)
2 kids
Married 18 years
D-day - 1/11/14
Filed - 1/16/14
Divorced 4/21/14
Walked in on WH and BF while her H watched

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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 2:33 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

Of course you're sad. That's okay and normal. I hope and expect you will find some peace after it's final. Some Hallmark level peace!

Sit. Feast on your life.

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Lola7 ( member #41195) posted at 3:08 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

Sending you happy thoughts and love. Let us know how it goes. :)

caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"
DIVORCED!

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Darcy3 ( member #39696) posted at 3:09 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2014

Sending good vibes and lots of (((WB))).

Me = BS
Him = WS
3 teenagers
Married 24 years
D-Day: Nov. 10, 2012
Divorced

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 WeepingBuddhist (original poster member #39139) posted at 2:16 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

It's done! I'm OUT! FREEEEE!

XWH (whoa, that feels GOOOOOD to type) freaked right the fuck out when I told him that next week I am moving and renting out the, wait, no...MY house. I'll be heading out of state to help care for my elderly mother for the next few years.

Thanks for all the good vibes and well wishes!!!!

Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

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dmari ( member #37215) posted at 6:48 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

Congratulations!!! FrEeDoM!!!

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wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 7:49 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor

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HurtsButImOK ( member #38865) posted at 7:50 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

Congratulations and (((hugs)))

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:52 PM on Friday, February 21st, 2014

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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