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So, after a revelation about my mom in IC last week and looking through my husband's search history during the As (ugh), I've been struggling a little (okay, a lot) this week with self-esteem and recognizing my inner worth.

After reading multiple threads, it appears that many others are struggling in this area as well.

I thought maybe posting a sentence or two about our strengths or what we DO like about ourselves would help us get back on the right mental track? Or at least, not hurt?

I'll start.

I like my persistence. When I put my mind to something, I don't give up easily.

I like also that I try to think of others and practice empathy, even when I am struggling.

What do YOU like about yourself?

I trust myself. I'm not afraid to stand up for myself and I don't back down from threats, etc. If anything they make my stance stronger.

I'm goofy. It's fun.

How important I think being well rounded is and how I live that way myself.

I earned a degree and had a career before I got married and had children (a goal I set for myself as a kid).

I have beautiful eyes.

I am trustworthy.

My children know I love them.

I am an excellent cook and can grocery shop on a shoestring budget (when necessary).

I see joy in most things.

I am loyal;

I am strong, both physically and mentally;

I am compassionate;

I have a wicked sense of humor.

I make my friends laugh

I bridge gaps

I am compassionate and thoughtful

I will go the extra mile.

Perseverance

Oh. And I am also really good at Oscar picks (see post in Off Topic) that my gambling friends rely upon!

Good thread to start Spotless!

I have a good sense of humor. My children know they are loved by me. I, too, can shop on a shoestring budget. I can be very focused when I want to be.

Yay! I love these so much--you all are amazing!

I overcame huge hurdles and traumas as a child with no help from anyone. I put myself through college while living in a severely dysfunctional home in 3.5 years and got a teaching job and an apt in the same day. I was a respected, loved, dedicated teacher for 37 years and an awesome mother, often on my own, to two great sons. I'm smart, witty, a good friend, listener, loyal and loving.

Thanks for this thread!

I am a problem solver, I love to listen to other's experiences, I find beauty everywhere I look, I see beauty and wonder in almost everyone I get to know.

i like that i have not given up, have had the strength to keep on going, have the strength to keep on going. i am weak in many ways but have found out stronger than i thought.

I like the fact that i am honest, is that it at the moment...yes

My integrity is solid

I love to tackle a good problem

I'm loyal

I am a great investigator, just ask the fWW

I'm forgiving

I survived an awful childhood

I am an excellent mom

I've got a good sense of humour

I have pretty eyes

I'm very organised and reliable

Love this thread, it's good to focus on our positives while wading through all the crappy stuff!

I'm kind.

I'm smart.

I'm generous.

I'm willing to work hard to continually improve myself.

I'm fucking adorable.

Oh, you want the real list?

I'm really quite good at my job, when I am really focused and not dicking off online. Uhhh...

I have a good sense of style and I have really good taste.

I'm quite funny, if slightly off-center humor is your cuppa.

I can hold my liquor.

I care incredibly deeply about the causes I work for.

I can be terribly mean and shallow sometimes, but it's part of my charm (and I need it to balance out the last one).