Thanks you two for the advice. Honestly, I CAN'T MOVE in any case. Seriously, I really have NO WHERE to go.
He's using that fact to intimidate me. However, I was abused by my dad/step mom and I refuse to ever go through that again. It will NOT get physical. If it goes there the game changes immeasurably. The bitch boots will come out AND the shit will hit the fan!
I do see that I need to cultivate friendships as well as ramp up my job search. Time feels like it's running out. I am working on those items. I admit.... It's hard& I feel frozen. This is not easy for me in the best of times. Right now it feels impossible . Friends are so scary to me now... how do I trust people after this?
OW must have talked to him (before marrying her current wife 12 years ago, she was married to & divorced from, a husband who was abusive).
H told me this morning if I buy groceries he will pay the mortgage/bills.
Hmmm. The sudden switch makes me suspicious.
I went and pulled $ cash from my account & hid it.
This is enough to either file/get a tank of gas/ cheap motel/ dog & people food for a few days if I had to leave super fast.
If I don't file I have even more time using that money & be away from home.
Daughter will help too ,where she can.
I'm trying not to file.#1 because it's not what I want, #2 because it week complicate things, I think.
Maybe I should consult another lawyer though.
We are scrambling to come up with a plan. It's just hard without any real financial plan. If he buys me out of the house, that'd help. .. but it's still hard to plan because I don't have set in stone amounts.
Anyway. He's off with OW today at the movies, going to the lake by her house (he claims he's going alone... yeah. That's why the text bomb night/morning with OW & going to the lake that's 10 min. from her/her wife's second home).
At least D & I have our house to ourselves for a bit.
THANKS for the thought provoking posts. I appreciate the input. And the support... it's nice to know I'm not crazy in thinking this is BS the way I'm being treated.
[This message edited by damnUnicorns at 6:52 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)]