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DTERMINED2SURVIV (original poster member #42294) posted at 1:34 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
OMG im so frustrated right now. Fws and I had the dumbest argument ever last night! I wish had a camera crew so I could just play back all of his arguments with him telling me how I dont care about him, im not there for him, or I dont support him. Its all bullshit. True, I may be a bitch from time to time because of a LOT of built up anger and frustration. Never once though have I not been there for him when he's needed me, never not supported his dreams (in fact did everything I could to push him towards them) and HE KNOWS I care about him more them ANYTHING! I think he just does this crap to avoid the actual issue.He says those things to try and take my mind off the subject at hand and go into a whole other argument. I just wish he could see what the hell he is doing...Then again im sure he'd say the same for me. I have every right to feel the way that I do because of the things hes done.
Im sure its very common for fws to throw a disagreement off topic to avoid the actual issue...but I hope im not alone here.
Ivyivy ( member #42110) posted at 2:00 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
You are not alone. I have been there and am still there depending on the day. I think it is how WS justify what they did in their own mind.
Me -BW
Him - WH
LTA
Dday 7/11/2013
DS - 12 and DD - 16
DTERMINED2SURVIV (original poster member #42294) posted at 2:14 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
This is an email he just sent me..
"but just wanted to let you know im thinking about you and i love you more than i will ever be able to comprehend. im sorry about the hurtful things i said last night. please forgive me. hope you have a good day. love you"
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 3:17 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
but just wanted to let you know im thinking about you and i love you more than i will ever be able to comprehend
To quote my 13-year-old, "What an ass-wagon!"
Just try to comprehend it, arsehole. Just a little effort, that's all.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
DTERMINED2SURVIV (original poster member #42294) posted at 3:20 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Lol I caught that too, When I first read it, I read it as..."more then you'll ever be able to comprehend"...
Makes maybe a little more sense that way. 
I am happy though that he did take the time out to apologize the best he could comprehend...at least he realizes he was being an "ass-wagon" 
MissMouseMo ( member #38562) posted at 4:03 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Two words: Nanny cam.
(No, not for revenge or I-toldja-so, so you can have a record of what your fights look like, so you can SEE what and how they work - so you can [maybe] repair the problems. Try very, very hard not to become "virtuous" in fighting once you have it. Remain who you were so you can *really* help yourself. It's not about him, not really.)
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal
DTERMINED2SURVIV (original poster member #42294) posted at 4:11 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Exactly...I understand that it DOES take TWO people to correctly R. The cam will benefit both of us, if we choose to use it in a constructive manner!!
Im seriously thinking about looking into it....We just started CC and IC counseling, so hopefully that helps the communication and not so being defensive!
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