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Broke my drought and it was horrible... T.M.I.

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 hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 1:53 AM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

So I've literally been on an 8 month drought. Broke up with exBF last June b/c I moved for a new job and we didn't want to do long distance. The most action I've seen is a sloppy kiss at a casino by a drunk guy.

I was on a business trip and met a man. We hit it off really well - easy conversation, closed down two bars, really good looking... I figured, "What the hell?!"

So... ended up being some of the worst sex ever. Sorry to get TMI, but he did that jack-rabbit thing? You know right ladies? Worst of all, he was a little long and it seriously HURT!! I actually told him 3 times to be careful and not go as deep because he was **hurting me.** (I didn't hint at that, outright told him). The fourth time, I just told him to stop, that I couldn't "handle it" anymore. I think he oddly took that as a compliment. No... dude, you are physically hurting me. This is not enjoyable sex. I then had a pain in my lower right side for about two days.

Ughhh... Great chemistry outside of the bedroom. Inside... I just want to forget it happened. Talk about a terrible way to break your drought.

Maybe I"ll just join a convent. I mean, I'm not Catholic or anything, but that vow of celibacy just looks better and better...

[This message edited by hurtbs at 7:54 PM, March 11th (Tuesday)]

Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single

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lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 4:37 AM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

he did that jack-rabbit thing? You know right ladies?

You have my sympathies hun.

No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.

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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:04 AM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Blech. At least you told him! He probably (hopefully?) has no idea he is so bad, maybe this will at least plant the seed.

It does make celibacy appealing. Hope the next prospect is better!!

Sit. Feast on your life.

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gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 5:39 AM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

......even bad sex HAS to be better than NO sex....

[This message edited by gonnabe2016 at 11:39 PM, March 11th (Tuesday)]

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:45 AM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Disagree ^^^^^

(((Hurtbs)))

I'm embracing celibacy as a lifestyle. It is surprisingly liberating.

I'll shut up now.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 11:48 AM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

he did that jack-rabbit thing? You know right ladies?

Yuck - I do. Or the camera angle guy. WTF are you doing? Porn doesn't feel good for the actors. What looks 'good' doesn't necessarily feel good. Read the bloody signs, dude!!

I've only had one bad experience (lots of GREAT ones) and I was celibate for months after it.

Bad sex is worse than no sex. Way worse.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 11:59 AM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Thankfully I do not know what the jack rabbit thing is exactly but my imagination is making me cringe.

Makes BOB seem like a romantic partner.

No sex is definitely better than bad sex.

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 hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 2:14 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Yeah sorry gonnabe but bad sex is not better than no sex. This wasn't mediocre sex. It was awful. BTW, sex and the city clip for jack rabbit maneuver

http://youtu.be/x8eia9hK-K0

This was not painful in a "kinky slight BDSM" way. Think of a woman periodically kneeing you in the testes.

Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single

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Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 2:25 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

GROSS- I am so sorry. He sounds like a teenage boy who doesn't have experience. Yuck. Even the image of it makes me want to

BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 2:26 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

he did that jack-rabbit thing

Maybe he thought because so many women like Rabbit BOBs...

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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lovehatelove ( member #42541) posted at 2:32 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

gaaaaah! I'm sorry... how frustrating....

you can always count on BOB he'll never let you down..

DDay ~ 2/23/13

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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 6:57 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Ugh. I'm sorry.

I think I'm too old and set in my ways to date again. I really don't want to have to deal with crap like that.

(((hurtbs)))

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 8:38 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

I am SO sorry.....I went out with one guy that ended up "poofing" on me that had sex like this....but he could never give me the big O...probably because of that reason. He was the 1st big mistake I made dating WHILE separated. Shoulda never gone there to begin with. UGH.....how I remember well! Its been almost 2 years for me since I've had sex and although I miss it......I don't miss BADDDDDD sex.....and my XWH was the "second man"..... not a minute man....that would have been a compliment. So, TMI...but I would rather not have any sex....than just another mess to clean up. Sorry.

Piper's sperm donor was the best sex of life....I think he has screwed up my expectations for good sex for any man in my future. He got me there EVERY time. I think God was giving me a present after 8 years with XWH without an O and only B.O.B. to fall back on!! God is good! And, at least I can say that I had a lot of fun making my daughter! That's the only good he was for!

And I have to tell you....being the expert on B.O.B. that I am.....given my hash name is "Hold my Ears I'm Going In" because I have broken the ears on FOUR Rabbit vibrators before.... (3 when I got my name....the 4th just recently met his demise) But, to be fair.... it was the same type of vibrator....I just LOVED it and kept reordering it....but I think I can officially say that the ears must be defective.....

BUT....I digress.... and want to say that every woman deserves and should own a B.O.B. .....even if you only take him out of the garage for a test drive every once in a while! (I haven't used one of mine in a couple of months...new record....guess I'm due for a Sunday drive.....

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:13 PM, March 12th (Wednesday)]

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12

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She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 9:33 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Ya'll just reminded me that I need to add another B.O.B. to my collection since I broke one (they are useless without the ears IMO)....... 2 years is a LONG time without real sex!!!!

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 9:34 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

BOBs have ears? I thought I knew what a BOB was (thanks to this forum), but now maybe I don't!?

Oh, and Hurt? How are you doing today, Hon? I hope you are healing!

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 3:36 PM, March 12th (Wednesday)]

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 9:48 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

BOBs have ears?

Only the Rabbit B.O.Bs and Butterfly B.O.Bs have ears... but to me...an earless B.O.B. isn't NEARLY as much fun as one with ears! My first B.O.B. was effective and got the job done but MAN...my 1st one with ears was mindblowing.... just personal preference I guess!

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12

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Ellejay ( member #30498) posted at 9:53 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

jack-rabbit? It's been a while for me I realize but I have no idea what this code means. Do I need to google this?

EJ

Married 25 years now divorced.
D-Day: 20/11/10
Me: 48.5 plus 10% GST
Him: mental age 6 (apologies to all 6 year olds)
Betrayal: Who cares anymore?

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 hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 9:55 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Oh I have BOB and my other toys. Right now, just going to invest more time with that. Perhaps spend some quality time with BOB - listen to BOB, see what BOB's hopes and dreams are...

I'm physically and emotionally fine - thanks for asking! I just can't believe that grown men do this anymore. Really?

My exWH was okay to good sex, at least the first few years. It then got horrible.

exBF was Am-azing in bed.

This is honestly the worst sexual experience I've had since high school. And at least they had the excuse that they were inexperienced and 16!

Thank god I live 1500 miles away and never have to see this guy again!

@Elle I posted a link on YouTube for what I mean by "jack rabbit" sex. I'm sure you know what it is even if you haven't experienced it recently...

[This message edited by hurtbs at 3:56 PM, March 12th (Wednesday)]

Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single

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thyme2go ( member #12908) posted at 10:43 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

O M G period

Further proof that size does not matter - rather it is how you use it. But... rabbit sex?

-t2g

BH - no longer 50
3 DD's - (32, 28 and 21)
Divorced on 8/6/09

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libertyrocks ( member #38924) posted at 9:02 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014

I'm blushing and cracking up right now. Is this what I have to look forward to??? lol. Sorry, dear. At least it's over!

Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.

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