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MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 8:49 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
TCD, You have so much going for you. You've got a long, productive, joyful life to live. You're a loving, lovable, capable human being, and you will get through this.
DITTO!!!!! (((TCD)))
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
RidingHealingRd ( member #33867) posted at 8:56 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Count me in as one that did get through it despite the fact that there were many days that I questioned whether I could.
Hope that you are feeling stronger soon.
(((TCD)))
ME: 60 BS
HIM: 67 WH
Married: 35 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 10 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 9:02 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
(((TCD)))
I am here with you.
You WILL be ok, better than ok.
Stand tall and know you are a strong, beautiful, smart woman who deserves to find her happiness.
And you will.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 9:03 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Thank you everyone. I wish I could say more but I don't want to risk getting hurt any more than I am (emotionally not physically so don't worry). There are so many strong people here. I wish you could get paid to be our life coaches.
Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Shattered-Heart ( member #32165) posted at 9:07 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
(((TCD)))
Do you live in a warehouse? There a lot of support here!
Sorry it's sucky right now, but know there's a lot of love and support thinking and rooting for you. Whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger, I guess... and makes us really appreciate the good stuff!
Me BW Him WH "The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage
Truly ( member #40715) posted at 11:17 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Just gonna take a wild stab in the dark (wouldn't that be fun?!) and guess that MrTCD is reading SI and being less that supportive.
^^^^^Understatement of the year 
Feeling that the lounge is getting a little crowded I've brought my camping chair and I'm sitting just outside your window, out under the big sky. I hear your warm voices and feel your smiles, needed those today.
What an awesome SI party! 
if only it was IRL xxx
((((((((((((((((((TCD)))))))))))))))))))
Kia kaha
xxx
There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens
StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 11:20 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Hope you feel better soon.
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 11:59 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
TCD, unleash your inner Bitch.
We'z all gots our popcorn and camping chairs and beer/wine drinking hats on and are ready for the throw-down.
Mr. Slithers is here somewhere. Want me to see if he will bite him?
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
MissMouseMo ( member #38562) posted at 12:31 AM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
If there's safety in numbers, count me in (even if I have to sit on someone's lap - man, this place is crowded!)
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal
CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 12:38 AM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
TCD, I wish we were all your living room too...
seriously everyone how fun would that be? 
We are definitely here for you, and I for one am definitely in pain as well, but I have to say ...... I am 10 months into separation and I can honestly say I DO feel stronger, but it doesnt hurt any less unfortunately.
TCD, I can't say that the pain will ever go away but I can say that you will and are becoming stronger..... Just be sure to always confront your feelings, don't become bitter, you need to still love life. Becoming stronger does NOT mean your heart turns to stone.
AIR HUGS, rather, WEB HUGS!!!
"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 12:58 AM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
Sending good thoughts your way. You will get through this, and come out stronger on the other side.
FixYou71 ( member #42654) posted at 2:49 AM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
BS:44
H: 50
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 22 and DS 18
Married 1993
StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 3:10 AM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
Looks like it's standing room only in there...
Thought I'd just drop by with a couple of good thoughts (from the mouths of those wiser than I):
If you’re going through hell, keep going . - Winston Churchill
Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. - Confucious
Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life’s about creating yourself. - George Bernard Shaw
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. - Winston Churchill
((((TCD))))
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 3:24 AM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
You know, I AM almost literally in your backyard. If you need RL support, I can get to you. PM me.
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 3:36 AM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
((TCD)) no matter what the outcome, you will survive. You will thrive.
I did not believe this, but it's true. I, too, had a remorseless husband. I, too, stayed for a very long time. I, too, was isolated and felt alone. I wasn't--many more cared for me than I knew. And I've met many more since then.
I thought it would never be better. But OMG, it is. So, so much better. It can be for you, too.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
SI Staff ( Moderator #10) posted at 7:13 PM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
Truly,
Please remember the following guideline:
FLAMING & ATTACKING: Please refrain from attacking another member, publicly or by using the SI.com Private Message feature. Do not bait or call out others. This includes members and non-members.
Thank you.
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 8:20 PM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
TCD, we ARE all in your living room.
Hang in there. Put yourself first this time.
((((((TCD))))))))
I hope today finds you feeling better.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 8:26 PM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
How are you doing today,TCD?
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Truly ( member #40715) posted at 11:00 PM on Monday, March 17th, 2014
Huge apologies to all,
Comment made as a jest. Clearly didn't think that one through.
Sorry (((((TCD))))) Hope things are better today x
There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens
lastdance ( member #42401) posted at 12:21 AM on Tuesday, March 18th, 2014
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