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Freebygrace (original poster member #42484) posted at 10:47 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Is there an article about this somewhere? I saw it referenced in JFO.
I feel like my WS and I are on different planets when it comes to the marital rules. Like, I wouldn't go out and do things that make him mad or upset. He has no problem doing that to me though. I think we need some guidelines.
Me: BS 49
Him: WH 52 ( lane444) married 26 years. 16 kids from 28-2 years old
OW #1 my friend, 1st year of marriage dday 3/17
OW #2 his ex gf in 1993, he claims ONS Dday 10/17
OW #3 my BFF NC broken 2x ( after 17 years of false R)
DIVORCIED
Truly ( member #40715) posted at 11:21 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Sorry (((((((((Freebygrace)))))))))
I don't know of an article, but someone here will.
I thought the rules were in the marriage service??
And in the morals, values and hearts of all good people??
I may have missed something... 
Kia kaha
xxx
There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 11:49 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
I'm not sure if you are talking about a figurative contract or a literal one.
I'm in a covenant M, so it is a legal contract besides the actual M certificate.
www.supreme.state.az.us/dr/Pdf/covenant.pdf
If the PDF doesn't open up, trying googling covenant marriage Arizona. Arizona is one of the states that has covenant M and recognizes it from other states as well.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
Freebygrace (original poster member #42484) posted at 12:04 AM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
I think it is figurative. It's in the consequences thread, first post.
I thought there was an article or post about it? So that both people are on the same page.
And YES! I agree that was in the vows of the ceremony. But it seems that my WS didn't really get it. He seems to think that acting as a single person is OK. Spending money without consulting the other is OK. And if you aren't feeling good in the marriage, you can self sooth however you want. In the arms of someone else. And if you are mad when you do that, then all should be forgiven. Ugh
I need a contract or guidelines or something.
Me: BS 49
Him: WH 52 ( lane444) married 26 years. 16 kids from 28-2 years old
OW #1 my friend, 1st year of marriage dday 3/17
OW #2 his ex gf in 1993, he claims ONS Dday 10/17
OW #3 my BFF NC broken 2x ( after 17 years of false R)
DIVORCIED
jpumpkin ( member #42148) posted at 12:24 AM on Friday, March 14th, 2014
I don't know of a pre made one. I agree it was in the original vows. Isn't it sad that that some grown ups need it spelled out. "No, you doing everything you want regardless of my feelings is not you honoring me." For a long time my FWS felt my desire to be honored was me being controlling.
[This message edited by jpumpkin at 6:25 PM, March 13th (Thursday)]
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