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It sounds to me after reading all your responses that you are doing the right things for both you and your 2 kids. Sometimes, you just can't fix broken. As I said in my earlier post, I am sorry you are hurting. This pain is unbearable and, unfortunately, it will last for a long, long time. Take care of yourself and your children. Your leaving sets a good example for them. You won't allow someone to mistreat you and they will see that. Good luck. Everyone is here for you whenever you need to bounce stuff off us. We might not always agree, but we do understand what you are going through and will help if we can.

If Hitler could deceive the world about his intent, why do we find it impossible that there are certain people who can do the same to us?

I am so sorry you are going through this, he sounds he should be on the show, WHO THE BLEEP DID I MARRY?! Scary

Be prepared for him to switch gears from indifference to professed love. This doesn't sound like his first rodeo. Just know that every word that comes out of his mouth is most likely a lie. Remember ACTIONS not WORDS prove intentions. Have you every spoken to the ex wife? That might shed some light on his true character.

It sounds like you are making good sound choices, first protect yourself and your children from him and his kids, get your ducks in a row (make him PAY dearly) and then move on with your life.

Best wishes

I am so sorry you need to be here, but glad you found us. The pain of betrayal is so intense. For those that have not been betrayed, I do not think they understand it. There is a wonderful amount of support on this site and I hope you us it as you work through the problems you have.

I think you are making some very wise choices for you and your children now. On this thread, is information on the 180. That information can help YOU as you are still around him some and will help your healing. Hopefully, you can get away from him quickly. Remember, 180 is for you...not a punishment to him.

I also encourage you to see an attorney. If he has done this before, he has learned lessons from his previous divorce. Get one quick so you are not on the losing end. Also, you need to make an appointment to be tested for STD's. It is embarrassing ,but necessary. You do not know what else he has been doing.

Take care of yourself, eat when you can, drink plenty of water and take care of your children. Remember you do not have to make quick decisions on anything right now.

I knew a lot of things about my husband too but it didn't stop me from believing in him, because I happen to be the kind of person who believes people can grown and change. I have the capacity to look for the best in people and it sounds like you do too.

You have no reason to feel ashamed, you gave him the oppourtunity to be a good and decent human being, and he failed. That's on him, not you.

Don't ever let anyone tell you that you should have seen this coming. You did the best you could with the information you had. ((Hugs))

Walking away from him after this is not the difficult part, it is hurting the kids and walking away from my stepkids that absolutely crushes me.

This is heartbreaking, for the kids and for you. I'm so sorry he has chosen to possibly take away his kids stability with you, a loving stepmom. God bless you all. This story just proves how someone's selfish behavior wreaks havoc on those around him.