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(((((Williesmom)))))

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I can not express enough that this isn't your fault. Please call the police and go to the ER. Even if you don't want to press charges, please consider at least filing a report. He had no right to choke you or violate you. No means no. What a complete jackass!!

Sending you strength and hugs.

((((((Williesmom)))))))

You did nothing wrong.

(((((Williesmom))))

This is not your fault. None of it! I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I'm so glad you're okay. I haven't read the other posts, but based on your description, it sounds to me like he assaulted you. I think I would contact the police if I were you, especially since he's texting you like crazy. He thinks that assaulting you is sexy and that the date went well? He sounds unstable.

(((Williesmom)))

Please, please, at a minimum, go to the ER. You need to get tested for exposure. I am so sorry. I hope they will refer you to a rape crisis counselor.

Strength(((WM)))

They will handle the reporting.

I can't go to the local ER. My sister works there. It's a small town. Everyone talks. I don't want to go to the city for this, and I don't want my family involved.

I am so so sorry Williesmom. He should be locked up for that..

So sorry WM,

If not the ER can you just go file a police report? At the very least this may be on his record and may help stop him doing this to someone else. And you will feel that you had some power back that he took from you. Take someone with you.

No means no. And doing something to you when you are asleep is definitely assault. Also, if he tries coming around to your house you will already have on file that you feel he is a danger to you.

(((WM))))

Wiliesmom, this is NOT your fault. You need medical and psychological support immediately.

I haven't been in your shoes specifically, but I have been in a similar situation where I felt like because I allowed it to continue I was going to be help responsible and humiliated if I told anyone.

This man is a danger to women. If not for yourself, please report him so that he pays the consequences and thinks twice before every violating someone again.

I'm sick and sad for you. Sending love and hugs. Take care of yourself and don't worry about what the community thinks. You deserve help and compassion for this.

((((((((Williesmom)))))))))))

((((((((((((((((Williesmom)))))))))))))))))) I am so sorry. That is truly awful.

I agree that you might want to file a police report at the very least. Also, if you met him on an OLD service he needs to be reported to the owners of the OLD service. That is a very scary man, WM, he physically and sexually assaulted you. I can't imagine you are his only victim.

((((((Williesmom)))))) Honey, I am so very sorry. You are in NO way responsible for what he did. Inviting someone to dinner? Not an invitation to violate you. Sleeping with someone? Not an invitation to violate you.

You told him no. Anything after that was rape. Period.

My heart hurts for you and what you went through last night and what you are experiencing today.

This isn't your fault. You have no cause for embarrassment or shame.

((((Williesmom)))))

I understand your reluctance to file a police report and to go to the ER, but please get checked out medically. Can you go to your private practitioner? Also, please use the link that Persevere sent you. A rape counselor can help you and it will be kept confidential. The agency I work for (in NY) has rape advocates. They gently guide the victim with whatever is needed. They won't push you to do anything you don't want to do. Reach out to your bff for support, and to an agency that is meant to help victims when you're ready (sooner rather than later for the medical part).

Giant hugs to you.

(((((((((((WM)))))))))))

I am so very sorry.

I am so angry for you. I want to find this piece of shit and I want to hurt him.

(((williesmom))) oh sweetie, I am so, so sorry this happened to you.

Big hugs

I am so sorry, WM. Please talk to someone at the Rape Crisis Center.

..OMG.. he sounds like the type of sicko that uses the date-rape drug on women..

..police should be informed as well as the OLD service..

..you probably aren't the first, nor will you be the last woman to fall victim to this inhuman sick bastard..

..did he possibly slip you a drug? ..you were 'asleep' when the hand assault happened??

..this guy needs to be taken off the street before he goes any further..

..sorry you had to go thru that torture.. because that's what it was!!

smy

Williesmom - first, many hugs.

I'm not sure if I am allowed to post on this forum but I'm going to anyway.

I've been in your shoes. I was embarrassed. Embarrassed that I didn't somehow stop this. Too embarrassed to go to the hospital because I thought that somehow I was at fault. I didn't scream, I didn't fight. i JUST SAID NO. and that, my dear, is enough.

There are times in our lives when we have to make choices for our future and this may be one of them. I didn't go to the hospital because there was no struggle or fight, he didn't hold me down or anything like that. But I did say no, same as you. so, I was confused. I should have gone anyway.

Is there ANY WAY you could go to a hospital in an adjoining city? EVEN IF you decide not to do anything you can get the rape kit done and not proceed any further by telling them his name. It could be evidence you have in the bag until you make a decision. And right now, it may take time to get some clarity on this.

I am writing this to you and crying triggering because I didn't go to the hospital. I know how hard it is. But you were raped, plain and simple. And you are a good worthy person who has been taken advantage of. Do what is right for you. Take care of yourself. Please know that everyone here is in your corner and you did not deserve this treatment. This guy actually sounds quite sick.

I'm so sorry. Do you have anyone IRL you can lean on at this time?

Hugs!!!

(((WM)),

I understand. The shame, the embarrassment. So does he. In fact he's counting on it. From your description of events, this isn't the first time he's done this. I also suspect a *date rape* drug. He even had the audacity to re-contact you after the events. Probably to see if he needed to get an alibi ready.

Please, if not your local ER, get one you are comfortable at being anonymous. This prick needs to be stopped. YOU need help. You're in shock. The trauma is massive. Please.

Strength

(((Williesmom)))

I don't know if you should or shouldn't go to the ER or report it to the police. I would call the cops but I understand small towns.

Talk to your BFF and talk to an IC. This is not OK...at all. EVER. It is not normal!!! It is not OK. and it is NOT NOT NOT your fault.

I am so sorry this happened to you.