<I believe she has gotten bored again (as she has been playing with many men besides my WH) and is probably hoping someone tells her husband so that they can have the romantic makeup time again in their lives.>
EXACTLY! You are keen and insightful.. what an idiot for thinking he should 'follow his heart'.. (excuse me a minute,.......
) by throwing away a partner who was loyal, supportive, and intuitive.. (and strong, as you are already proving to be, I think!) for a piece of vile, low-life trash as that thing. WHAT A FOOL!!! Just from what you described, we already have a pretty good picture of her.. just the fact that she makes a hobby out of screwing tons of guys speaks VOLUMES in itself. So.. what exactly makes your hubby think he's any different...?? So she not only cheats on her husband, but cheats with MULTIPLE guys including married men. And she's a thief to boot. Wow... what a class act. Does he really think he has a prize, here...???
But really, you've described this scumbag so well, I think we all know the type.. and it's so obvious and predictable how this will pan out.. and you already can see it for yourself! As you said, it's just a drama game for her.. your hubby thinks he's all 'in loooove' with this prize.. but for her it's just a sick game and he's such an obvious pawn in her game but he's too dumb to see it. I know these types. They literally get a high from cheating on their partner (and often the partner's doing it as well..) They use other unsuspecting victims to play their sick game & create drama.. they pull them into their mess, ruin lives and make the partner jealous.. which builds up the tension, then those two have a big reunion.. a real hot & heavy make-up/ make-out session. It's like a form of foreplay for them. So sick and juvenile. And sadly these evil women also get off on hurting other women. They feel small, inadequate, and jealous.. and this kind of thing makes them feel more powerful and significant.
But your hubby is too dumb right now to see he's getting sucked up into her/their game. And sadly, YOU are the collateral damage. He is only seeing the short-term gratification, and not the long-term life-changing consequences. He dabbled in danger and now he's hooked on the drug (her). But I will bet anything it'll only last a few more weeks before the thrill is gone. It doesn't last long for adrenaline/drama junkies.
Normally I would chime in with the crowd and say YES absolutely tell the spouse ASAP!! However your case is kind of the exception.. if the husband is fond of booze & has guns...... yeah, probably not a good idea right now as you're right, someone could get killed. (but then again....um, nevermind..)
Anyway I'm so impressed with the amazing advice you've gotten on here from these folks. Sorry you are dealing with this crap that we've all been dealt in some form or another. I bet your hub will feel like the biggest fool in the universe after he's no longer useful to this game-player (which should happen any day now). PLUS, I wouldn't doubt that her hub will find out soon enough anyway.. that is an essential part of the game.
You didn't deserve this.. you weren't a fool, you were an honest, straightfoward person doing what a person should do. Unfortunately this kind of experience makes us all feel like fools....
*hugs*