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Oh Cleo. I'm so very sorry that you have been dealt this blow right after dealing with the death of a child. The only pain I imagine worse than infidelity.

You are doing the smart thing right now and that is taking some time to focus on you your healing and grieving as well. I would urge you to participate in some sort of group grief counseling for parents, if you aren't already. As you probably already know, couples who lose kids are much more likely to separate. I'm not sure why I feel this may help you. Perhaps to know you're normal.

Anyway. It sounds as though you are leaning more toward D than R. That's fine. But be prepared for your H to try any number of things one being begging for another chance. So take some time to figure our if you're willing to R and if so what you want and need from him to even try.

I would set that bar pretty sang high. You deserve much more and it is ok to ask for it. See a lawyer though so he doesn't go skipping off to unicorn land.

Lastly if this infected whore is M her H HAS to know what up. She's out spreading diseases that are contagious and can be easily contracted. He has the right to protect himself.

Your fWH still should have gotten tested regardless of condom breaking. Some stds can now be caught thru kissing or oral sex. And hpv (tested via pap) and herpes can be caught even when condom is used. They are both at epidemic states.

Another question is did he make sure that the ONS partner take the morning after pill?

[This message edited by whattheh at 3:55 PM, March 29th (Saturday)]